5 simple habits to boost your personal confidence

"if you've been searching for the light at the end of the tunnel, this is a reminder that the light is already within you" 

It’s no secret that 2020 has been a total rollercoaster. For me personally, there have been many ups and downs. But despite the uncertainty of the year, I’ve actually found this to be one of my most successful years so far. I’m not sure if its the unpredictability that threw me into a state of being that isn’t so attached or fixated on things going a certain way. I’ve really had to embrace the art of going with the flow.

When you aren’t completely attached or set on something, it allows room for the Universe to step in and create miracles. And for me, this year has been completely miraculous feeling. I’ve been more in tune with my creativity than ever before and I can’t help but notice that I have also been forced to be “detached” from the outcome which they say puts you in better alignment for manifesting the things that you want.

More importantly, I can’t help but notice that my confidence level has vastly improved as I’ve been moving more into this ‘go with the flow’ vibe.

For as long as I can remember, I have made my spiritual practice and my internal energy my TOP priority. Before I do anything else, I go to find my center in order to make sure my mind doesn’t talk me out of things that are good for me or I don’t find myself struggling with fear, anxiety, depression, etc.

From my years of studying Feng Shui I know how important energy is. The energy of ourselves and the energy of our environment. According to ancient Asian literature, Qi (aka Chi aka high vibe energy) warms, nourishes, stimulates and protects the spirit and body, organs and fluids in human beings and in nature. When you are consistent in having Chi, you are more adaptable to the things that come your way in life, you hold more power and when you feel that full of high vibe energy…you radiate CONFIDENCE. And your confidence is that unstoppable, high vibe, manifest it all kind of energy. Who wouldn’t want to always be operating from that energy, right?

I’m going to share 5 simple, daily habits that you can implement to your routine to CHANGE YOUR LIFE!

1. Proper exercise (Yoga Asanas). It’s no secret that body movement is one of the most important ways that we can enhance our overall physical well being. Yoga improves circulation, massages the organs and assists their overall function. A strong and flexible spine enhances the blood circulation and keeps the body young and powerful. Yoga helps with not only your body but also it’s like therapy for your mental fitness. It helps you to focus on there present and cultivate your mindfulness. I personally like doing a few stretches in the morning when I get up and also in the evening just before bed. I love how my body feels after I workout, it always gives me a little boost of confidence.

2. The correct way of breathing (Pranayama). Breath work is such a game changer. I can remember the first time I practiced the Andrew Weil 4-7-8 breath technique, it totally transformed my ability to work through stress and anxiety quickly and easily. When we constantly regulate our breath, we are able to build up an extra amount of prana (life energy) and can use these energy reserves on a daily basis, especially in our manifesting efforts. Meditation and breath work are like little cheat codes to your manifestations. (I also love to use crystals to help my manifestations).

3. Timely rest & relaxation (Savasana). I can’t ever remember a time I regretted taking a nap. Our bodies & minds sometimes need a break from all the work we put on ourselves. I find that if I ever feel exhausted or just overwhelmed, a small nap or rest will do just the trick. The thing to remember is that it needs to be true rest, not watching tv or doing something else while laying down.

4. Fresh & healthy diet (preferably mostly plant based). A long time ago I tried a plant based diet cleanse (detox) and it honestly gave me so much clarity and energy! I no longer felt bloated and weighed down, I felt light and vibrant. I believe that in order to feel your best, you have to eat foods that make your body feel good throughout the day. Every person is different so you have to try what works for you but paying attention to the food you put in your body and how it makes you feel can completely revolutionize your day. For me, I love coffee but I took a step back from coffee and switched it out with my Arbonne Fizz drinks. Just making this simple shift changed a lot about how I felt about my body and my energy for the day.

5. Positive thinking (Vedanta) and Mediation (Dhyana). Meditation connects you with your soul. That connection gives you access to your intuition, your hearts true desires, your integrity and the inspiration to create a life you love! When you frequently meditate, you have a better control of your mindset, which puts you in a very powerful position to use your mind as a tool for manifesting.

When you feel calm, centered and in control of your life, you feel confidence. These are some of the ways I put my spiritual development at the top of my to do list everyday. It is such a priority to me to make sure that I walk through my days feeling powerful and confident.

Blissful Living Tip of the day: Before you do anything that is taking an action (masculine), make decisions, speak up, make requests, etc.....
Stop, take a deep breath (feminine) and ask yourself...
..am I doing this out of fear/worry or inspiration/love ?
.
Make a commitment to yourself to do nothing until it is purely an action out of inspiration and love. 💕

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The Power of a Pink Chanel Wallet

This post is all about 3 life lessons I learned from purchasing a pink chanel wallet.

The past few weeks have been an absolute whirlwind for me.

I made a lot of personal life changes, moves in my career, decisions around my mindset. It has been a complete up-level of my life all the way around. And while I love sharing all of these things on my podcast, I can’t help but feel compelled to blog about them today because, I love this blog and I love blogging so so much.

Here are a few valuable life lessons I have learned in the last few months…

LIFE LESSON #1: I’VE GOTTEN BETTER AT TRUSTING MYSELF.

I’m big on following your gut, your intuition. It’s something I work on building every single day. I have a long history of doubting and second guessing my decisions and a few years ago I made a commitment to become more decisive. I always learned that the wisest and most wealthy people were excellent and making quick decisions.

However, sometimes, I find myself making the decision quickly, then second guessing it. My mind goes quickly into overdriving thinking about how I feel about the decision that I just made. And honestly, it’s the biggest waste of time.

So, a few weeks ago I decided that it was time for me to upgrade my wallet. Up until this point I had been keeping all my cards in a small card holder but my cash would float around my purse. It made me feel completely disorganized and overwhelmed.

My aunt took me to the Chanel store and encouraged me to upgrade my wallet. As I shopped for wallets I was drawn to this beautiful bubble gum pink Chanel wallet. I literally could not take my eyes off of the color. BUT, everyone was encouraging me to go for a black wallet as it is the most classic choice and will always work with whatever bag I carry.

And while that sounded very rational and wise…I didn’t want the black wallet. It did absolutely nothing for my soul. It’s a one thousand dollar wallet, I mean this isn’t like a cheap wallet I just had no soulful connection with it. That pink wallet literally sang to my soul.

While my rational brain was telling me, go with the black wallet..the smarter choice. I went with the pink one! And I, for the very first time ever, decided to trust my decision. Not second guess it, not overthink it…just trusted my initial gut feeling.

I learned so so so much about life during this process. Everyday when I pull out that wallet, I get so happy looking at it. I love the color, I feel proud of my purchase and I have that connection with my wallet and trusting my own decision. It was 100% the right move for me. And honoring yourself in that way…is quite possibly the most important up-level for you internally!

As someone who struggles with trusting my own decisions, this was a big moment for me. As you get better at trusting yourself, your relationship with yourself grows. Your ability to make decisions give you confidence, helps your career in terms of strategy. It showed me that I am ready to make the next level moves in my career because I have developed the ability to trust my instincts.

The prettiest pink rug sits in my new home office with a perfectly pink shell chair.

LIFE LESSON #2: I RELEASED THE NEED TO WORK SO HARD. I’m a Capricorn through and through. My personality loves working hard and I love to please and impress people. I get major satisfaction from being successful at something. I got my real estate license in record timing, joined one of the TOP real estate teams in my city and found myself working 40+ hours a week, busting my butt to work with the most luxurious homes in Houston.

However, as time went on and I looked around at most of the other top agents I noticed that the work/life balance didn’t really exist. The real estate industry can be very motivating and exciting. However, I lost the joy of being inside these luxurious homes because it is a hustle that never ends. It’s all work and very little time for a personal life.

The people around me were sacrificing relationships, time with children, happiness and joy. And honestly, I thought to myself, I’ve learned in my almost 40 years of life, life doesn’t have to be this way.

So, I decided to let go of the hustle, aka the need to be the best and moved onto my own. Where I can control my schedule and move forward in my career in a way that works for me. The first and most important thing I did was create a home office that motivates me to get up and do what I am most passionate about. A home office that inspires me.

So, I turned our little guest room into a pretty pink cocoon. To completely support me in being happy while I work. I am so passionate about creating a HIGH VIBE HOME to support you in the life you want to design for yourself.

And here’s a little secret, the month that I made the decision to slow down and work on my own…I made more income than I EVER have before in my business. MIND BLOWN. When you’re happy, you glow from the inside out. That energy is unstoppable and you will become MAGNETIC to success and opportunity!

LIFE LESSON #3: THERES ROOM FOR EVERYONE!

You know, I used to be the biggest Starbucks girl. Who isn’t, right? It’s a classic, go-to coffee spot and always gives me just the right cracked up dose of energy I need for my day, especially as a working mom. However, I drove by Dunkin Donuts the other day and remembered how I used to live near a DD in Manhattan and always liked their coffee too. In fact, I actually like the DD iced coffee better than I liked Starbucks. So, now my go-to is Dunkin Donuts coffee when I am on the go in the mornings.

And you know what I realized…..While Starbucks may be on every corner and pretty much have monopoly on quick morning coffee. I NEED Dunkin Donuts. I freaking love Dunkin Donuts branding. It’s pretty and pink and orange. It makes me happy when I look at all the pink everywhere while waiting for my coffee. I thoroughly enjoy my morning when I see the pink on my coffee cup.

Which is such a reminder for anyone in business…there is room for you at the table! And actually there is probably someone out there who isn’t really into whatever is already out on the market. There is someone out there who needs what YOU bring to the table. The way you do it may be JUST what other people have been waiting for.

Let this be a reminder for any of you who have been sitting on an idea or a dream. God is trying to do something through you, for someone else. Never feel like the market is too saturated because there is no one like you. If you would like to get some inspiration in becoming your own boss and launching an online business, check out my Online Boss Academy.

Hope you enjoyed this blog post. I love you!

xo, Ashlina