HOW EMBRACING MY FEMININITY HELPED ME FLOURISH & THRIVE IN MY ONLINE BUSINESS

This blog post is all about why I made the switch to a more feminine approach to doing online business.

Being in business for yourself is NOT for the faint of heart.

You’ve got to have an incredible amount of strength and resilience to start, run, build and grow any sort of personal endeavor. Just ask anyone who is an entrepreneur and they will tell you that it isn’t as glamorous as it looks. This is also why I think moms make the most incredible entrepreneurs…they know what it takes to be strong and resilient.

I’ve been in business for myself for over 15 years. It was always my dream to have the time and financial freedom that being an entrepreneur provides for you. I’m so grateful that I’ve created my own path in business that has me feeling beyond blessed, I love being my own boss.

You might enjoy listening to this episode of my podcast, Blissfully Ambitious.

HOW BOSS BABE CULTURE IS BLOCKING YOUR BLESSINGS:

However, I think there is a big misconception about being a woman in business. There is this whole ‘boss babe’ phenomenon that has an entire generation of women in a choke hold of being in a constant state of hustle.

Women buying into the luxury aesthetic, to keep them ‘chasing’ as a constant state of being ( keeping up with the latest handbags, clothes, style, labels, certifications ) instead of being in a state of ‘pursing’ the true luxuries ( peace of mind, wellness, time freedom, financial freedom ).

It’s almost like a subconscious belief system rooted in unworthiness that keeps women in the constant state of stress, struggle, chasing success by any means necessary…masculine ways of being that women simply aren’t built for.

Fun Fact: Women run on a 28 day hormonal cycle where as men have a 24 hour hormonal cycle, men are built for this way of being. So, when women are out of their natural state ( hustling, burning out, etc), they are blocking their innate blessings and gifts.

By being in this constant state of chasing success, women disconnect themselves from the natural ease of being in alignment with the divine. This connection with the divine is the state that allows inspired ideas, inner brilliance, divine downloads, higher wisdom and aligned action to flow through. It is THIS where the magic to running your business really is.

MY SECRET WEAPON IN MY BUSINESS IS MY LIVING IN THE DIVINE FEMININE

For so many years, I prioritized what other people said worked for them and I am still seeing my clients do it all the time. “Well, this millionaire said to do this” “That successful coach is doing that, I want to try it too”.

I’ll give you a personal example. Even though, I knew I was ready to shift out of interior designing for clients, I still felt like it didn’t make sense for me to do what it was that I really wanted to do (shifting into full time coaching, content creating, course creation, growing my online business, etc) and because I allowed other people to influence me, I pursued working in the real estate industry. I can also thank the show ‘selling sunset’ for painting a very glamorous picture of the business, again outside media influence. It made perfect sense to me and everyone around me to shift into real estate from interior design. “It’s a smart move” and “very logical next step” , two phrases I heard often from almost everyone in my life.

However, I stuffed down every desire, intuitive knowing, divine message, etc. All of them. I ignored them and pursued the ‘logical path’ that made ‘logical sense’. So, as I should have known, I found myself stressed out, unfulfilled and disconnected from myself. While on the outside, I was successful and making great money, I even manifested aka landed a coveted athlete client … I was experiencing a complete disconnection on the inside, in my heart and soul.

Several months later, my loved ones began to tell me “I think you’ve lost your shine”…and I just knew I had to take the leap and get back to doing what my heart and soul really longs to do in this world. And within weeks, I was out earning what I was making in real estate. That was the moment I knew that the spiritual law of divine compensation is A REAL THING and I would never, ever, ever, ever suppress my feminine intuitive wisdom again.

HOW I USED MY FEMININE ENERGY TO FLOURISH IN MY BUSINESS (and you can do it too)

1. Get to know your feminine energy cycle. As a woman, you have 4 weeks of hormonal pattern changes, Menstrual phase, Follicular phase, Ovulation phase, Luteal phase. In each phase, you have different hormones working at different levels. Knowing what week you are in can really help you navigate how to best use your energy in your business. Not every day are you meant to be going full force, there are times you are meant to rest and reflect without feeling guilty. (p.s. You can google this, learn more on Pinterest and I also break all of this down for you in detail inside my course, The Goddess Glow Up.)

2. Make peace with your past. Next, I had to forgive myself for falling into the trap of prioritizing what others say to do, over my heart & higher wisdom. I also had to make peace with the fear of what others might think about me and what I am doing with my life. Peace became a priority for me because I understood that in order to live in my innate energy and hear my inner wisdom, I had to be in a state of peace. When your mind is too busy warring with all the mental chatter, your intuition and divine wisdom gets very, very faint and hard to hear. Feminine energy is very soft, calm and sometimes silent so that the heart and soul has space to be heard and followed.

3. Build trust within yourself & your body. You’ve got to start trusting yourself completely over anyone or anything outside of yourself. You can begin to do this by making promises and commitments to yourself and following through with them. You also can practice trusting your intuition by journaling and reflection. Grab a notebook and ask yourself “What does my heart really want to experience in this life?” Write it out and reflect on your answers. See how they feel to your soul.

   Hot tip: Practice locating your thoughts/desires in your body. When you create from fear, it comes from your root chakra (the very bottom of your spine). When you create from your intuition, it comes from your sacral & heart chakra (just under your belly button, all the way up to your heart). So, you can usually have a body experience to tell you where your thoughts/emotions are coming from.

Here are a few more questions to ask yourself in regards to the work you are doing…..

“What do I truly, deeply want to do with my time on this planet?”

“How does my heart long to show up in the world?”

“What wisdom makes me feel good to share with others?”

“Is what I am currently doing with my life showcasing the best of me, my gifts and talents?”

See what comes up for you when asking yourself these questions, sometimes we are able to receive the wisdom more clearly from our higher self when we journal it out on paper.

4. Take action immediately. I really had to learn how to STOP second guessing myself. Once you have determined that your intuition has spoken to you through a desire, inspired action step or a creative idea…you must take action ASAP! Because the mind/ego will always do everything it can to keep in stuck in what feels safe and comfortable. Following your divine knowing isn’t always easy, it takes quick action & definite decisions. You’ve got to be willing to push through fear and hesitation will just give room for fear to step in and take over. For me, that meant I needed to be able to make quick decisions on my own without going to anyone else but God/the divine for feedback and advice.

So, practice taking quick action without second guessing yourself or asking anyone else’s opinion.

Hot tip: If I ever took an action that had me over thinking “what if i did the wrong thing?”, I reminded myself of my divine connection, I always recommend to shift into your spiritual side when taking these actions. You will want to shift into a few of these inner beliefs….

✨ EVERYTHING IS ALWAYS WORKING OUT IN MY FAVOR ✨

✨ THE UNIVERSE IS WORKING BEHIND THE SCENES, EVEN IF I CAN’T SEE IT ✨

✨ I NEVER MAKE A WRONG DECISION WHEN I TRUST MY GUT ✨

I believe that your soul came to this on purpose, with a purpose. And as a woman, we have so many intuitive gifts we are meant to be serving the world with. Brilliant ideas, creativity, empathy, sensitivity, wisdom…there is so much that you naturally have to offer this world. You are meant to put it to use.

We can’t fully receive what is meant for us when we are hiding out in our jobs and playing small in the world. You are meant to and will be rewarded for radically and unapologetically taking up space by owning who you are and fully living up to your potential.

A reminder…you don’t have to be, act or live a certain way to be anointed by the divine/God and there is nothing you haven’t done yet that is required for you to be worthy of what you want in this life.

It’s all already yours and it is waiting for YOU, to step up a claim it.

If you are looking for more inspiration/guidance around leveling up and sharing your gifts online….join me inside my business community… ONLINE BOSS.

8 simple ways to slow down and romanticize your life at home

Have you ever felt like you just need to take a step back and create sanctuary at home? This post is all about 8 ways you can simplify your life and slow down at home.

Lately I’ve been spending an extraordinary amount of time at home, especially in my bedroom. Between, cancelling dinner plans in favor of giving myself an at home facial to spending all Sunday afternoon in bed catching up on the latest Love is Blind episodes on Netflix instead of brunch. I just can’t help but feel that the art of luxuriating at home is the ultimate bliss.

For most of my life, I’ve been very passionate about the art of domestic bliss. However, after the early years of becoming a new mom & the years of quarantine and being forced to stay home for months, I found myself feeling a little guilty if I didn’t get myself out to socialize and enjoy outside experiences as if they are ‘soon going away’. I hadn’t realized how much the PTSD from new mom life and quarantine had deeply affected me.

I had to learn a new way of appreciating my home and ‘staying in’ without feeling as if I am not grateful for the opportunity to ‘get out’. Over the past year or so, I’ve really learned so much about myself, how I was so plugged into hustle culture and the ‘girl boss’ mindset, that I had forgotten the bliss that comes from relishing in my true feminine energy nature.

I had to reprogram my natural state of being to embracing a slower routine by embracing rest and relaxation as a way to conserve my inner peace so that when I am in action, I’m incredibly effective and productive, so as to not compromise my success.

Being someone that works from home (and films videos at home) I have to ensure my home experience supports me in being effective, productive and at the same time, utterly blissful.

I learned that the best way to remain successful in my life, was creating an environment that nurtured my mind, body and spirit in a very feminine way. I put together a little for you sharing the ways that I slow down and romanticize my life at home.

8 simple ways to slow down and romanticize your life at home:

1. Enhance your sleep experience with rituals.

Getting a good night of beauty sleep is essential for optimizing your day and feeling fantastic. So, I knew I had to make my bedroom feel like an absolute dream. Plush pillows, blankets and delicious bed sheets.

I like to make my sleep experience a complete ritual. I use linen sprays so that when I dive into bed, so it smells incredible. I light up my essential oil diffuser with serenity oils to help me fall asleep. I program my sound machine to turn on at 7 pm every evening with a soft amber light glow to help my brain get ready for sleep. The entire experience is absolute bliss and helps you slip into your peace and ease, the ultimate feminine expressions.

Here are a few of my sleep essentials:

2. Upgrade your home lounge wear.

There is nothing I love more than lounge wear at home. The second I walk in the door I love to find my coziest clothes and put them on. I do not sleep in anything but gorgeous pajamas or a beautiful robe. I need to feel the soft fabrics against my skin at night and be able to get up walk to my kitchen for coffee in something just fabulous.

Also, whenever you decide to stay in, you will be more likely to slip in to neglecting your self care if you feel like a slob while having your morning coffee. You want to feel pretty, fun and feminine. Treat yourself to pretty things to wear for yourself, and that will always make an impression if you live with others too.

3. Create a luxurious coffee/tea drink experience.

coffee bar style // source

When I get up in the morning, I have a full glass of water with a little lemon in it. The water glass is beautiful with pink chrysanthemums on it. The lemon squeezer is this adorable little pink thing and it brings just a little more joy to my day.

My coffee experience is hands down THE most luxurious experience of my day, I am absolutely in love with my set up. Even the jar that holds my Nespresso coffee pods sits on a gorgeous mirrored tray. And don’t get me started on the beautiful coffee mugs I use. The entire thing makes me feel like a million bucks and you want the same for yourself too because how you do one thing is how you do everything. Meaning if you drink your coffee like a fabulous goddess, that vibration will carry through the rest of your day as well.

4. Add plants, fresh flowers and other little luxuries.

plant collection // source

In Feng Shui, plants and flowers represent the energy of life and vibrancy. In other words, it keeps the energy in your home fresh, bright and colorful. Color will affect your energy more than you think. Yellow brings joy, Green cultivates the energy of abundance, Blues promote relaxation and serenity, Whites symbolize clarity and fresh starts. You can use this knowledge to help surround yourself with all of that decor therapy.

Bring in small things like crystals, candles and fresh or faux flowers and plants to decorate your special spaces.

5. Set your table at least once a week.

terra cotta table style // source

Setting the table is an art form, its also a creative expression, like cooking. If you aren’t big on cooking a huge meal at home, that’s okay. Just be sure to set up your table as if you are having a gorgeous home cooked meal, even if it came in as take out. It helps to get your creative juices flowing and it makes you more inclined to invite guests over which will bring more happiness to your home. Tapping into that creative, nurturing side of yourself will leave you feeling more of your feminine side come out.

6. Create a signature home fragrance.

Sensory experiences will immediately have you unleash your feminine energy as women are incredibly sensual beings. When you focus on getting more in touch with your five senses, you will connect more with your body, your true feminine nature. The easiest way to start, is through smell. Candles, essential oils, lotions, perfumes, etc will all have you tickling your sense of smell. I once read that Patricia Altschul from Southern Charmed had a signature potpourri in her home that everyone ranted and raved about. I then decided to find my own home fragrance that was my homes signature and I’ve never looked back. It will leave a lasting affect on your guests.

Here are a few of my favorites, that I suggest…

♥️ I like to burn Tom Ford Fucking Fabulous, always makes my home smell decadent.

♥️ Using an essential oil diffuser with citrus/grapefruit always invigorates me in the morning.

♥️ I also LOVE using candle warmers like this one to keep my candle smell lingering all day long without burning it down so fast. Plus, it looks so pretty.

♥️ I’m also a fan of spiritual ritual candles like this one, they have aromatherapy benefits that help you manifest.

7. Prepare your bath/shower experience for relaxation.

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Turning your bath into a sanctuary is of the utmost importance. Your bathroom is THE most important room for taking exquisite care of yourself and it should feel like a spa if you know what you’re doing. When your bathroom feels pampering and beautiful, you will be more likely to take extra time caring for and beautifying yourself. Which you need to help build your relationship with yourself.

Set yours up complete with plans to take a long, very slow bath. You can even do a bath ritual like this or this.

8. Set up little altars of joy.

All throughout my home I have little moments that literally boost my serotonin. There is even an entire new name for the trend which is called ‘dopamine decor’. It’s basically curating your home to have pops of joy all throughout your home, delicious treats for your eye absolutely everywhere. For me, I curate my altars with tokens of beautiful memories, crystals, plants and objects that put a huge smile on my face.

When we neglect ourselves and our home, we tend to live a life of stress and struggle. But when we care for ourselves, our inner peace and our homes…we shift into ease and luxury.

Here’s the thing, a low sense of self worth and self esteem will make you cling to things and beg for others to stay up front and center in your life. The false idea that you have no options will make you stay depleted and out there chasing outside things, people and places. Instead of staying in and taking care of yourself, your energy and your home.

I’m showing you how you can elevate out of the low self-worth, struggle & chase for outside validation in my newest program. . .

THE GODDESS GLOW UP

LEARN THE ART OF FEMININITY & THE MAGIC OF BECOMING A HIGH VALUE WOMAN (click here for details)

p.s. listen to the latest episode of my podcast, Blissfully Ambitious.

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