Money Matters: How to Have a Money Date and Why It’s an Essential Wellness Practice {podcast ep.349}

Money touches every corner of our lives — yet so many of us avoid truly looking at it. We feel shame about debt, guilt about spending, or fear about not having enough. But what if tending to your finances could actually be a loving, gentle ritual — a wellness practice just like meditation, journaling, or yoga?

This is exactly what financial therapist Bari Tessler teaches with her idea of the money date. In this post, we’re going to break down exactly how to have one, and why building financial intimacy with yourself might be the most overlooked form of self-care you can practice.

And I even recorded a podcast episode for you all about the topic.

💔 Money Stress: The Silent Relationship Killer

Money isn’t just math — it’s deeply emotional. And when it’s neglected or avoided, it becomes a silent stressor that impacts our mental health, relationships, and even our physical well-being.

Consider this:

• Money is the #1 cause of relationship stress. According to Ramsey Solutions, money fights are the second leading cause of divorce, just behind infidelity.

• A study by the Institute for Divorce Financial Analysts found that 22% of divorces cite money issues as the primary cause.

• The American Psychological Association’s Stress in America survey consistently shows that money is a top source of stress for 72% of adults.

• Financial strain is strongly linked to depression and anxiety. Research published in the Journal of Family and Economic Issues found a clear correlation between financial stress and depressive symptoms.

In short: our relationship with money can deeply affect our quality of life — for better or for worse.

This isn’t just about budgeting your money, it’s about creating a brand new relationship with money and your wealth. Inside my course, Soul Aligned Wealth, I guide you to reprogramming your brain for a more positive & healthy relationship with finances. Every morning for 21 mornings, you will re-wire your brain & body to align with the type of relationship to wealth that you really want. Check it out here.

✨ What Is a Money Date?

A money date is exactly what it sounds like: a date with your money. Instead of avoiding your finances or facing them only when problems arise, you set aside dedicated time — ideally each month — to gently and lovingly check in.

During a money date, you might:

• Review your bank accounts

• Look at your spending without judgment

• Pay bills

• Adjust your budget

• Set goals for the coming month

• Celebrate any wins, no matter how small

It’s a chance to reconnect with where you are financially, where you want to go, and how to get there — with curiosity instead of criticism.

💆‍♀️ Why a Money Date Is Self-Care

Too often, we think of self-care as bubble baths and spa days. But true self-care includes caring for your future self.

A money date helps you:
✔️ Feel more in control and less overwhelmed
✔️ Reduce financial anxiety and avoidance
✔️ Communicate better with your partner about money
✔️ Make aligned choices with your values and goals
✔️ Cultivate a sense of peace, security, and empowerment

When you know where your money is going and have a plan, you free up mental and emotional energy for other areas of your life — relationships, health, creativity, and rest.

🗝️ How to Have Your Own Money Date

Ready to try it? Here’s how to make your first money date enjoyable, not intimidating:

1️⃣ Schedule It
Put it on your calendar like you would a coffee date with a friend. Choose a time you’re relaxed and unlikely to be interrupted.

2️⃣ Set the Mood
Light a candle, pour your favorite drink, play calming music. Make it feel safe and pleasant.

Or you can visit a local coffee shop, hotel restaurant, make it an actual date.

3️⃣ Reflect with Gratitude
Start by acknowledging what your money has provided for you recently — groceries, a roof over your head, maybe a treat for yourself, etc.

4️⃣ Check In, Gently
Open your accounts. Look at your spending, income, and bills. Be curious, not critical.

5️⃣ Make Adjustments
Update your budget if needed, pay upcoming bills, and plan for next month’s priorities.

6️⃣ Dream Ahead
Set one small, doable financial goal for the month — like saving $50, paying off a little debt, or cutting back on a subscription you don’t use.

7️⃣ Celebrate!
End on a positive note: do something relaxing or fun afterward to reward yourself for showing up.

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❤️ A Love Note to Your Future Self

A money date is more than a budgeting session — it’s a commitment to care for your future self. It says: I love myself enough to be present with my finances today, so I can feel safe, empowered, and at peace tomorrow.

Try scheduling your first money date this week. You might be surprised how much lighter you feel afterward.

📌 Have you ever had a money date? Would you try one now? Share your thoughts in the comments — I’d love to hear how you’re bringing financial intimacy into your self-care routine.

How to Run Your Life & Business as a Human Design Generator (Without Burning Out or Forcing Success)

If you're a Generator in Human Design, chances are you've been told to hustle harder, initiate more, or be consistent no matter what. But none of that aligns with how your energy is actually designed to work.

As a Generator myself—and someone who runs multiple businesses—I had to unlearn traditional productivity and relearn how to respond. When I finally honored my strategy, everything shifted: my energy, my peace, and my success.

In this post, I’ll walk you through exactly how to live and work as a Generator, share my personal journey, explain how this connects to your sacral chakra (aka your feminine powerhouse), and show you how to create a thriving business by doing what feels right, not what looks right.

Listen to this episode on the podcast:

✨ What is a Generator in Human Design?

Generators make up roughly 70% of the population. We’re the energetic lifeblood of the world—born to do what we love and do it well. But our superpower isn’t in initiating… it’s in responding.

Generator Strategy = Wait to Respond

This doesn’t mean “sit around doing nothing.” It means:

• Tune into your environment

• Receive prompts, invitations, or inspiration

• Respond from your gut—not your mind

• Take aligned action when it feels like a full-body YES

When you follow this strategy, you're rewarded with satisfaction. When you ignore it and try to force things? You hit the wall of frustration.

🚫 Why Initiating Doesn’t Work for Generators

I spent years initiating—launching offers before anyone asked, making content I thought I “should,” chasing ideas that weren’t fully aligned. And it always led to burnout, disappointment, or a weird lack of response.

When I started letting things come to me—whether it was a question in my DMs, a comment on my podcast, or an inspired hit from a conversation—that’s when everything started to feel easier. Because instead of doing something to achieve success. I was lit up with energy from within, to get get up and create things from my soul. The best part? It felt like I had all the energy in the world to do it, it lit me up versus draining me to create what I needed to create in the world. (and creating something in healing to your body!)

🌺 The Sacral Chakra: Your Divine Feminine Business Superpower

If you're a Human Design Generator, your sacral chakra isn't just an energy center—it's your inner compass, your YES machine, and the gateway to your goddess energy.

Located just below your navel, the sacral chakra is home to your:

• Creative life force

• Sensuality and feminine magnetism

• Emotional intuition and energetic alignment

This is also the energy center associated with the divine feminine. When you’re in alignment, you move through life and business with magnetism, joy, and flow—not force.

Why Your Sacral Matters in Business

In masculine-led business models, we’re taught to push, perform, plan, and produce. But if you’re building a soulful brand or creative business, that approach will drain you over time.

Feminine energy doesn’t hustle—it attracts. It responds. It co-creates.
This is where the sacral chakra becomes your secret business weapon.

When you operate from your sacral:

1. You create from a place of desire and joy

2. You’re magnetic to aligned clients and opportunities

3. You stop second-guessing and start feeling into what’s right

4. Your business becomes an extension of your goddess frequency

🌞 How to Activate Your Sacral Chakra & Shine Online

To fully step into your feminine power in business, your sacral must be turned on. You’re not here to force your way through success—you’re here to feel it into being.

Here are simple but potent ways to strengthen your connection with your sacral chakra:

💡 Inside my course Shine Online, I guide you through how to activate this goddess-level energy and infuse it into your brand, your offers, and your visibility—without burning out. It’s a business course for the woman who wants to be magnetic, feminine, and fully aligned.

This isn’t just about marketing—it’s about embodying your radiance so you shine from the inside out.

🔥 Signs Your Sacral is Out of Alignment:

• Constant frustration or lack of motivation

• Saying “yes” when your body says “no”

• Overthinking your business moves

• Creative blocks or lack of inspiration

• Feeling disconnected from your body or pleasure

✨ When You Reclaim Your Sacral Power, You Become Magnetic

As a Generator, when you learn to run your life and business from your sacral:

• Your energy becomes sustainable

• Your brand becomes irresistible

• Your success becomes inevitable

You no longer hustle like everyone else—you respond like a goddess, trust your feminine intuition, and lead from embodied alignment.

🧬 Why Knowing Your Human Design Changes Everything

When you know your Human Design type, you unlock your most aligned way of making decisions, using energy, and creating success.

What you gain:

• Permission to stop over-efforting

• A deeper connection with your true desires

• A custom blueprint for how you attract aligned opportunities

💫 How to Find Out Your Human Design

You’ll need your:

• Birth date

• Birth time

• Birth location

Then go to:
👉 https://mybodygraph.com
👉 https://geneticmatrix.com

Look up your chart and find your type, strategy, and authority.

If you’re a Generator or Manifesting Generator, this post is for you. (Projectors, Manifestors, and Reflectors have different strategies.)

💖 Benefits I’ve Experienced from Living My Design

✅ Less burnout and overworking
✅ More clarity about what I actually want
✅ More aligned clients, more easeful launches
✅ Content creation that flows with joy, not stress
✅ Business growth without sacrifice

🌬️ When Business Feels Like Bliss

This shift didn’t happen overnight. But slowly, day by day, my business stopped feeling like a grind and started feeling like breathing—natural, intuitive, and deeply aligned.

Instead of constantly strategizing, pushing, or trying to “show up” in the right way, I began to let my sacral lead. That meant only saying yes to what felt expansive, exciting, and energetically alive in my body.

Marketing transformed from something I had to do into something I genuinely looked forward to. It became an extension of my joy and truth—a two-way conversation with my soul-aligned community, not a performance or persuasion tactic.

Client work, once a source of burnout, flowed with ease. The right people began arriving—people who already felt connected, who didn’t need to be convinced, but simply responded to my energy. The best part?
I started working less hours and creating more impact.
I finished projects feeling energized instead of drained.
And my business grew—not in spite of my feminine, responsive approach, but because of it.

The true magic wasn’t just in “waiting to respond”—it was in being radically honest with what my body and energy were saying yes to. That discernment, that embodiment of divine feminine wisdom, made my business magnetic.

☀️ How to Plan Your Day as a Generator (In Divine Feminine Alignment)

As a Generator in Human Design, you’re not here to force or initiate—you’re here to respond. You hold a sacred role as one of the planet’s true life force energies, gifted with a defined Sacral Center—your internal power source of creativity, vitality, and intuitive knowing.

When you build your days around what lights you up, you not only get more done—you feel more satisfied, magnetic, and alive. The more joy you generate, the more energy you create. This is your superpower.

Generator Strategy:

• Your Aura Strategy: To Respond

• Your Signature Feeling: Satisfaction

• Your Not-Self Theme: Frustration

Let’s explore how to start and structure your day as a Generator, in a way that honors your energy, feminine rhythm, and sacred “yes.”

🌸 Morning Rituals for a Sacral-Led Day

Here’s a Generator-aligned flow to start your day in your goddess energy:

✨ Begin with stillness.
Take a few moments for breathwork or meditation to ground into your body and quiet the mind. This reconnects you to your sacral intuition before the world starts making demands.

✨ Set intentions from your sacral, not your to-do list.
Ask yourself, What am I excited to respond to today? Let your body lead. If it doesn’t feel like a full-bodied “YES,” it’s a “no” for now.

✨ Nourish your body.
Choose foods that feel energizing, not depleting. Your sacral energy thrives when your body is supported with clean, nutrient-rich meals.

✨ Respond, don’t initiate.
As you move through your day, notice what external cues or opportunities light you up. That email, that message, that idea someone mentions—feel into your response before jumping in.

✨ Follow the joy trail.
Prioritize the tasks and activities that genuinely excite you. This is not lazy or indulgent—it’s sacral strategy. You’re designed to thrive when doing what you love.

✨ Close the day in gratitude.
End with a short reflection or journaling practice. Acknowledge what felt good, what didn’t, and what you’re learning. This helps recalibrate your energy and keep you aligned with your highest self.

🧡 Generator Affirmations to Activate Your Energy

Repeat these aloud or write them in your journal to reconnect with your feminine power as a Generator:

• I trust my sacral response—it always guides me home.

• I am energized by doing what I love.

• I honor my body’s rhythm and let go of pressure.

• I am here to respond with wisdom, grace, and power.

• My satisfaction is sacred—I follow it fearlessly.

🙋‍♀️ FAQs About Being a Generator

Q: Does “waiting to respond” mean I have to do nothing?
A: Not at all. It means you stay active and stay open to outside stimuli. Watch for signs, questions, feedback, or feelings that spark a gut “yes.”

Q: What if I don’t feel anything in my sacral?
A: You might be disconnected. Practice sacral-stimulating activities (like dancing, journaling, intuitive eating, or saying no). Also consider reducing overstimulation—sometimes we can’t hear our sacral over the noise.

Q: How do I run a business this way if I need to sell?
A: Create offers based on what people are already asking for. Then put them out in response to energy—not pressure. Share content in response to your own excitement or audience curiosity.

Q: What’s the difference between a Generator and a Manifesting Generator?
A: Manifesting Generators can move faster and often juggle multiple passions—but they still must wait to respond. MGs might feel more “multi-passionate,” but the strategy is essentially the same.

You Were Never Meant to Force It

If you’re a Generator, your energy is sacred. You’re here to follow joy, respond to life, and build a business that flows.

You don’t have to initiate to be successful. You just have to listen to your body, trust your sacral, and act when the energy is right.

✨ Let your feminine energy lead.
✨ Let your sacral be your guide.
✨ Let business be aligned, not exhausting.