A life-changing hack to RAISE the vibe at home

Yesterday I listened to a talk with 2 psychiatrists discussing the effects that the Covid-19 quarantine & working from home is having on our overall mental health. Statistics were just released on domestic abuse reports in Houston, Texas. There was an 81% increase in domestic abuse reports in March 2020, compared to March 2019. That is some serious increase.

But it isn’t really that surprising, is it?

It’s like all of a sudden, everyone is at home. 24/7. So if you aren’t used to being stuck indoors all day, everyday, with someone, whether it be family, relationships or roommates…..how are you supposed to adapt? It’s a huge life shock for all of us.

So now more than ever, we are forced to confront all of those awkward feelings that we have with others and on top of that, with ourselves. It’s a great time to really uncover all the hidden parts of your relationships that need healing and attention. It’s important that we use this time wisely so that when this quarantine is over, we can adjust into our new normal with a confident peace within.

In an effort to help you get deeper into your post-corona, personal life up-level, I want to encourage you to look beyond the typical relationships in your life and really open up to your relationship between you and your home.

How do you feel about being at home? Does it brighten you up or make you stressed? The way your home affects you and those living with you can truly wreak havoc on your life experience. You want to do anything and everything you can possibly do to make your home a happy, vibrant and high vibe place to be so that you all don’t hate each other by the time quarantine is over.

We all know how much I love talking about the home. Feng Shui is the relationship between you and your home and I am passionate about sharing how to incorporate it and what has worked for me. Today, I want to teach you one way you can begin to put the Feng Shui energy at work into your space. I recently posted a video on Instagram TV sharing how to use the modern Bagua Map (the feng shui energy map) in your home. This post can also give you some helpful insight as well.

A home quarantine is the perfect opportunity to begin to create little shifts in your home that translate out into your life. Now that you have the time, your work within the four walls of your home should be purposeful and intentional. When I wanted big changes in my life, I painted my apartment walls all black to help create drastic change. Making changes to your home like that, helps bring about changes in your life, and Feng Shui helps to ensure that you make the right ones.

Here is an easy exercise you can do, at home, to bring in Feng Shui energy and up-level your life in every area:

1. Create your Bagua Map layout. Grab a notebook and draw the layout of your home or if you have a digital copy, go print it out. Next, make yourself familiar with the Bagua Map (use the B2B Western version). As you begin to draw out the bagua map, be sure to line up the correct area (the Wisdom/Career/Travel end) with your front door or entrance of your space. You can use this guide for your reference.

2. Use the Bagua to feel. Take your new map with you to the front door and begin to walk throughout your home, clockwise. As you go around your home, look to see how each area of your home makes you feel & how that feeling relates to that area of your life. For example, as you walk through your Wealth & Abundance area, what is the vibe of it and think about how that relates to the current state of your wealth and income. Is it beautiful, clean and happy or could it use some attention and care?

3. Write down your up-level list. As you go through each area, write down 3 ways you would like to see an up-level in that area of your life. For example, if your finances aren’t up to your liking, how could that improve? What would you like to see? As you begin to make a list of how you want your life to improve, you should see an opportunity for improvement in that area of your home. Could your wealth area use a little de-cluttering or perhaps just some cleaning and organization? Maybe it could use a Feng Shui money tree or a pyrite crystal. (Crystals can actually do wonders for you when it comes to Feng Shui & enhancing the energy of your home) Could your love corner reflect a clean, softer, more romantic vibe? The thing to remember is as you move things out, new, awesome opportunities are welcomed in. When you make small changes, big shifts can begin to appear.

One of my girlfriends used this quarantine time to create a home workout station out of an empty corner that needed love because she wants to improve her health and fitness. It seems like common sense, right?

AN IMPORTANT REMINDER:

There is a difference between knowing what you need to do and actually doing it. The completion of your actions helps to amplify your energy and cause shifts in your life. You can read books about dieting and know all the information but until you actually start eating better, there isn’t an energetic shift to get you on your way. Sometimes you have to throw out your junk food, organize your pantry, clean your fridge and fill it with healthy foods. There is always a way to shake up your life by enhancing and organizing your home. Feng Shui is the shortcut to making it work. Using the wisdom of Feng Shui is the ultimate immersive manifesting modality!

LEARN MY SIMPLE AND HIGHLY EFFECTIVE HIGH VIBE HOME METHOD

**If you enjoyed this post, you will love this one too. Also, you don’t want to miss episode 60 of the Bliss Vibes Only podcast. I love sharing home energy hacks like these.

How to find the confidence to rise to your potential

If you know deep down that you are meant for something bigger, this message is for you.

The other day I was sent a question from one of my insta-friends, “How do I get the courage to show my work on social media?” and it hit me like a super sized water balloon. I thought to myself “other people struggle with this too?” I mean, these days people share everything down to their coffee on social media every morning, why wouldn’t they share their creative pursuits?

I can completely relate to this. About a year ago I began my podcast, I probably recorded twenty before I ever even published one. I was so hesitant to press that publish button for fear of what others would think. For years, I’ve been successful in my interiors career but when shifting into new territory deeper fears begin to emerge . I have thrown out so many photos of things I haven’t felt were worthy of the ‘gram. As a new mom, I have such a hard time with photos of myself, too. There is so much pressure to have things look perfect, it can absolutely dismantle any and all ideas of successful sharing. It’s natural for all of us to have that sense of insecurity in our work, so we set out to get the feedback and permission from others to allow us to continue and go for it. I’ve learned that the fastest way to feeling stuck in life, is to hide our creative expression. You see those people who bury themselves in shopping problems and happy hours, they often find that they are covering up their creative expressions with these masks. It’s a gift to yourself to let your creativity shine.

I really feel called to touch on this topic because I truly believe that we live in a time where creativity is encouraged and celebrated and the table isn’t full. If you have a passion, a talent and something that you love to do, you were ABSOLUTELY meant to do it and share it with the world. The world is waiting for you to show up and show off your skills. Success is possible for all of us.

Having said that, I absolutely understand what it feels like to not feel confident enough to stick with it and self promote your new venture. It’s like those musicians that never “finish” their album, if you peeked behind the curtain, you would see that they continually are “working” on it so they never have to open it up to the possible rejection and scrutiny. It can be incredibly overwhelming as an artist to show your creative pursuits to the world. This is where personal development is key to building a profitable and flourishing business. We have to be willing to take a look inside of ourselves and see what is really going on in the subconscious mind.

So, how is it that some people out there effortlessly share their work with the world with no hesitation and seemingly have the magic touch that turns everything to gold? CONFIDENCE! That’s how. The thing is, confidence can’t be bought but it can be built, you just have to make a decision and choose to be confident.

A few ways to find your own personal confidence and build it:

STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS. Literally, stop. Years ago my girlfriend, Cara Alwill Leyba told me that she stopped following anyone on social media that was in her industry. She didn’t want what they were doing to influence her work, you should definitely read her book if you need a boost of confidence. I think this is very important for creatives. We are living in a time where we can see pretty much at all times what other people are doing and that can totally distract us from our own focus. The less time you spend checking out & comparing yourself on social media, the more time you have to be creative and innovative on your own.

BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. Here’s the deal, there is no other you. So there is absolutely no possible way that anyone else can actually copy or replace you. They can’t be YOU and you can’t be THEM. So don’t try. Focus on your skills, talents, traits, quirks and build on them. Make a list of each of your unique qualities and post it on your bathroom mirror, make it your screensaver. Do whatever you have to do to remind yourself how unique, qualified and talented you are.

GET ZEN. When you relax, let go and just go with the flow of things you create less drama around sharing your work. If you want to share, share it. If you don’t, don’t fight that feeling. Dropping the drama around “sharing your work” decreases the resistance to it. Then, when you’re ready to, you’ll share. When you have this stress-free attitude, you’ll naturally give off a confident vibe. This is my personal favorite confidence hack.

CHECK YOUR GUT. Ask yourself what it is that you really want to do. Deep down if you are feeling like you need/want/should share your stuff, you should listen. Your intuition knows your potential and when you follow her advice, she gets stronger, louder and will always have your back. Don’t let your fear talk you out of it. Your intuition will speak in a positive tone, your fear will speak in a bossy, harsh, mean girl tone.

FILL YOUR MIND WITH POSITIVE ENCOURAGEMENT. Podcasts, books, YouTube videos and blog posts like this one should be on demand for you. You can always find me in the grocery store, car or getting my nails done with my ipods in my ear. I am always learning and growing. Here are a list of some of my favorite resources when I am feeling a little less confident:

Gary Vee- just one episode of his podcast should pump you up. I also really love his book Crushing It, I highly recommend it.

Jen Sincero- she has two really great books, You are a Bad Ass & You are a Bad Ass and Making Money. Both are great reads.

Gina Devee- she is such an inspiring business woman and will give you that big sister pep talk you’ve been dying for. I absolutely love her talk show videos.

JUST START. Honestly, every time you share something you’ve done with the world, you build the muscle of belief in yourself. The first time I had a jewelry trunk show and stood up in front of a group of women talking about my jewelry I couldn’t speak I was so nervous. Once I got over that hump and began chatting with women who were in love with my work, it shifted. My energy was lighter and free and I felt confident to do it again and again and again.

REMEMBER THIS: When you do begin to share, you will begin to find your people. You are not the only person in the world who will love what you do. There are people out there who will be attracted to you and your work, those are your people. Your people are waiting for you to show up because they are looking for you, they need you to shine so they can shine too.

I love you, Ashlina

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