6 things women who manifest do differently

Have you ever felt like your dream, aka your manifestation, always seems to be a little out of reach? The other day I received a question from a reader that absolutely shook me. She wrote to me that she was “curious about situations when you wanted something specific, (a house in my case) but someone made a better offer ( which you could not match ) and you did not get it ? Like how to see the positive side of this if you felt this house was fantastic and was the best you have ever visited ?. “

As the empath that I am, I couldn’t help but mentally put myself in her shoes and relate to times in my life where there was something that I wanted so badly and I knew it was meant for me but it didn’t happen. Because at the end of the day, things don’t always go how we want them to in life, am I right? And isn’t it our duty to deny the disappointment and think positively? Like that time I didn’t get the lead in the school play when I knew it was totally mine. Or when my business idea didn’t quite turn out the way my manifestation efforts intended it to?

If you are new to manifestation, you may want to read this post, A beginners guide to manifesting.

This situation really got me thinking deeply about how I deal when manifestations or things that I want ultimately don’t work out for me. I also paid attention to stories my mentors & friends have shared with me over the years. You can download my FREE Manifestation Mindset Makeover Guide here. Here are a few things that I notice about how successful women handle situations like this…

But first, watch this video:

Related Reading: The 8 phases of manifestation explained

6 things women who manifest do differently:

#1: Women who manifest… aren’t tied to anything working out in a certain way.

Part of the manifestation process is having faith and letting go. You’re always trusting in a higher power to handle the details of the things that you ultimately want. Your job is giving the universe a detailed plan for what you want to experience.

For example: I desired to live in a home with a soft light gray theme, I wanted soft grey walls and furniture. I wanted everything to feel clean and serene. I also wanted a bright white kitchen. All new appliances and lots of natural light. I also wanted pre-organized closets, all set up for me so I didn’t have to do that myself. These were the things on my vision board. And our new home, has all of that and more. I literally manifested it down to the details.

However, I also was set on a specific part of town that I really wanted to be in because of its proximity to my favorite walkable shopping area. I also put the name of the neighborhood on my vision board. I imagined me with my stroller walking all around the neighborhood with other moms with strollers. Interestingly enough, we found a place we loved in that area but we ended up not getting it. As upset about it as I was, the place we ended up moving into is way dreamier than I ever could have imagined.

And while it doesn’t have the exact name of the neighborhood I wanted, I have fully enjoyed walking with my stroller in my new neighborhood and meeting other moms and families doing the same. It also has walls with the perfect gray color scheme, a modern kitchen and the exact closet on my vision board.

After I put my intentions out there, I let go and I trusted that things were going to work out FOR me. I didn’t feel the need to control ALL of the details. The universe gave me the experience that I wanted, just in its own way. Trust in the end things are always working out in your favor.

#2: Women who manifest… don’t give up the belief.

The one thing I’ve noticed about the speed of my manifestations is that it seems directly related to my ability to be able to hold on to the belief in whatever it is that I want, is meant for me.

When I believe it’s mine & it’s on it’s way to me, it’s light I’ve got a magnet to it. This is where the work comes in. Do you doubt, give in to fear or endlessly worry about it coming? That behavior is giving up. The longer and stronger your ability to consistently believe and trust that it’s coming for you…the faster it comes. AND the longer you believe you are worthy of it, the longer it will stay in your life. I think this part gets easier after you’ve been practicing the laws of attraction and manifestation techniques for a while. I teach a lot of my manifestation secrets in my digital course, Soul Aligned.
There are ways to help you get through this process quickly. I’ve outlined the 3 phases of spiritual growth in my Manifestation Makeover e-book (download it here). I have a proven 3-step process that can help you fast track your progress.

#3: Women who manifest…decide.

Ultimately you get to choose what you want to experience in life. Once you decide and get clear around what it is that you truly want with clarity and precision…you can quantum leap your manifestations.

When you struggle with procrastination, indecision, fear of commitment and other low vibrational habits, you’ll stay in a continual cycle of “almost” or “not there yet”. I once was told that in order to move past the “I’m ready for this phase” all I needed to do was DECIDE “I’m here”.

From that place your internal frequency becomes magnetic to the things that you want.
This year, after I got my real estate license, I decided that I wanted to work for a particular company. I decided the look and feel of the homes I wanted to be working with and I decided that I was already in line with making a specific monthly income.

Once I decided that and convinced myself (and my subconscious mind) that’s where I was…my reticular arriving system began to create inside intelligence (intuitive inspiration) that led me toward acting and behaving in ways that kind of woman would. Sure enough, I hadn’t even finished my schooling when I got the opportunity to work for the firm I wanted and the type of homes I imagined. Listen to this podcast episode if you struggle with indecision.

#4: Women who manifest…don’t react to the world around them.

They know that whatever they see in the 3d reality outside of them is just a reflection of their old thoughts. So, instead of trying to fix it and change everything, they stay calm and begin to create what they want to see next.

#5: Women who manifest…know that jealousy & comparison are only signs of what it is they really want.

Women who powerfully manifest know that whenever they see someone around them get something that they ultimately want deep down, they see it as a sign that it is possible. They don’t look at it as discouragement.

#6: Women who manifest… know the importance of community.

Sometimes, manifesting can feel lonely because other people don’t always understand what it is that you are capable of. Not everyone else is going to be able to believe in your dreams or your vision. So, when you find supportive people to hold you accountable for your goals and dreams, it can feel so so good!

I created an online membership community for this specific reason. To not be alone on the journey of manifestation. Check out my membership community here.

Are you ready to decide that you are a powerful creator? The work you need to be doing is 100% an inside job.

4 WAYS YOU CAN BEGIN THE INNER WORK

1. Clearing out all the noise (clutter) in your mind. My favorite way to do that is journaling. I highly recommend trying to use the guided journal I created, Blissful Living Journal. It has 30+ days of prompts to help you really uncover your truth. Finding your truth is essential to manifesting success.

2. Clearing out the clutter in your life. Organizing your home so that it keeps you in a High Vibe environment. I explain how to do this in very specific detail here.

3. Reprogramming your belief system. It’s important that you have a strong self worth when you’re doing this work. There are many times when you alone are the only person who will believe in your bigger than average dreams. You have to be diligent is training your brain to believe in your power, in your worthiness.

4. Find someone to hold you accountable. As you are going through your growth process, it can feel lonely. You’ll need people around you to support your journey. Hire a personal coach or join a tribe like my community the House of Bliss. Every wildly successful woman I know has a coach or mentor guiding them. I personally invested a large amount of money in a coach who transformed my life by continually picking me up when I needed a reminder. When I did that, I immediately up-leveled my life, relationships and business. You’re different when you’ve invested in yourself, it’s the best investment you could possibly make. I cannot stress the importance of this. It’s hard to do spiritual and personal development on your own and when you invest in yourself in that way, you’re showing the universe you ARE that kind of woman. If you are looking for some guidance around this,
   

Ultimately, manifestation is an inside game. When you heal, align, decide, gain crystal clear clarity…that’s when you are able to really become more powerful than ever before. I am so incredibly grateful that I have learned the art of law of attraction and manifestation and I know that once you get it, you will too.

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The ultimate 6-step Work from home morning routine...

One of the things that was a non-negotiable for me when I was looking for a new home, was space for a home office. I need ample space working from home, I spent way too much time working at the dining room table to know that a designated work space is ESSENTIAL to anyone who works from home.

I personally will get caught up if I spot a dirty dish, undone laundry, a book out of place and honestly anything that catches my eye. So, making sure that my office space is filled with ONLY work things is extremely helpful.

WORKING FROM HOME REQUIRES A DESIGNATED WORK SPACE

Anyway, my workspace is actually what you would consider a breakfast nook. And what makes it perfect for my office is the beautiful and bright natural light pouring into the space. So, I adjusted the shelves and had the back wall painted black because you know I believe black walls are just superior.

My favorite office space of all time was black and honestly, it was my most successful year in business. On top of that, the color black in Feng Shui represents water and supports the vibration around your career path. So, if you have been wondering if a black office would work…it actually is an incredibly supportive color for your career/business.

Feng Shui facts, tips & tricks:

FENG SHUI TIP #1: YOU MUST SIT IN THE COMMAND POSITION

I started by working at the counter top on the back wall, but honestly, I found myself never being able to sit down and focus for long periods of time. I would take my computer to the dining room, sofa or even my patio. And I knew pretty quickly what was going on.

Having your back to the door of any room position in Feng Shui is not supportive to your work energy. You always want your desk/ workspace placed in the POWER position, which means that your back should never be facing the entry of the room. You want to be facing a window or the front door so that you can always be facing new opportunities coming your way.

Anyway, so I decided to put a round table, this white Saarinen inspired table was the perfect fit for the space, in the middle of the space for my desk and ever since I did that I find that I just love being in my office and I have been ten times more productive.

Speaking of productivity. . .

Something I recently learned that has completely helped me transform how I work is what they call 4 QUARTER DAYS. It’s a daily breakdown of times where I like to designate my rituals and routines.

Let me breakdown the daily schedule for you:

Morning: 5-9 AM **Here I do everything that is needed from me first thing, movement, getting ready, breakfast, school drop off, etc. I usually go on my morning walks or the gym around 9am.

Late Morning: 10AM -1PM **These are my power work hours, the times when I feel I perform my best and have the most energy. Recording podcasts, creating content, writing out plans, etc. I usually have my lunch around 1 and then my coffee at 2.

Afternoon: 2-7PM **Just post coffee, I do the things I couldn’t get to during my power hours but I allow myself to do them at a slower pace. I will also change up the scenery, maybe go work at a coffee shop or do something that inspires me. This is also the time, I pack orders + make jewelry.

Evening: 7PM+** Here, there is NO WORK. It’s all about my personal time and prepping myself for my night routine. I will do a post on that soon.

FENG SHUI TIP #2: SNAKE PLANTS ARE HELPFUL

They are said to attract prosperity, fortune and growing success. In addition to that, they are extremely helpful in absorbing the harmful radiation that technology emits. I like to keep my snake plants near my computer or anything that uses wifi.

Plants also represent and promote the energy of vitality and growth. So, keep your office filled with your favorite plants to help surround you with the energy of growth and you will align with growth in your work, business and personal growth, too.

read this post for more feng shui home office tips

WORK FROM HOME MORNING ROUTINE:

Here’s the thing, I have been a work from home entrepreneur since 2010 ish. I’ve been working out of my home for as long as I can remember, I love the work from home life. Ever since 2020, so many more people in my world work from home as well.

So, I know how important it is to cultivate a really strong work from home routine because it can be distracting, difficult and lonely at times, too. I am obsessed with routines and rituals, especially my tried and true morning rituals. Here are a few things I do specific to getting myself prepped and ready for working from home:

1. MAKE MY BED. I shouldn’t have to explain this but making the bed helps so much, especially when you work from home because it helps you not get distracted when you just really want to crawl right back into bed.

2. GETTING DRESSED: It might sound slightly obvious but this step of my morning work routine is probably the most impactful step of all. Before I go down to my office, I will dress in a cute but comfortable outfit, make sure my hair looks nice, makeup on my face and beautiful smelling perfume, too, this is my signature scent! There is a night and day difference in my work day when I come into my office fully made up versus when I sort of pop in a lazy outfit, hair a mess. My attitude, personality, productivity and entire experience is different when I am dressed up and feeling myself. You will see that the energy behind what you are working on is completely up-leveled and you will even feel more confident and powerful when you feel good about yourself. For me, I will always start my day feeling my absolute best. This is one of those ‘secrets of a millionaire mindset’ that just works!

3. HYDRATION: I am absolutely one of those that needs liquids all around me. I live for making coffee in the mornings. It’s just one of those things that signals my brain that I am ready to start the day. However, staying hydrated while getting caffeinated is top tier. It helps you from getting too crazed. I swear by my electrolyte water, it’s got potassium, zinc, magnesium and sodium which is what you need for optimal hydration (plain water alone doesn’t cut it) . And right now I drink it in this mug. In order to be really effective at work and energized for a good day of working, I need to be hydrated. You’d be surprised how easy it is to forget to hydrate. I think having a fun cup to drink out of makes it easier to remember.

4. MORNING PAGES: Before I do anything for the day, I will write out everything that comes to my mind. You can read more about morning pages here. For me, my work is all about creating and I can’t get into a creative head space if my mind is full of buzzing thoughts. I need to get my thoughts out onto the paper so that I can free up space in my mind to create. I will make lists of what to do, write out feelings or emotions, jot down any reminders I need and sometimes I will even write out intentions + affirmations. Those help me get clear on where I am going and what I want to create for the day.

MY HOME OFFICE DECOR PICKS :

5. SUPPLY SET UP: Another thing that is a must for me when I am working from home, is constantly keeping my office tidy and organized. Sure, I will allow things to pile up here and there. but if my desk space isn’t fully open for me to work on…I can’t complete anything. I have to have room for my drinks (always water + coffee) my writing tools ( usually a few colored pens and highlighters ) and my computer, phone and charger. I also need my pink scissors, proper ink levels in my printer and a fully charged computer. Here’s a list of all things need to feel set and ready to go for me to be ready to take on the day.

6. AFFIRMATIONS: I do not do an-eeee-thing without getting my mental state in check. Here are a few affirmations I like to start my work day with….

♥️ I woke up feeling worthy + empowered today. It’s going to be an amazing day full of new opportunities.

♥️ I am forever grateful for all that I am and all that I have. The life I have created is beautiful and it just keeps getting better and better.

♥️ I inhale positive energy. I exhale all doubts, fears, worries or attachments to things holding me back. I will not worry about anything that is outside of my personal control.

♥️ I am honoring the space between where I am and where I am headed. Everything is working out in my favor and for my highest good. I am living the life of my dreams.

I’d like to take a short break here in this blog post to share a podcast episode that I think you might enjoy.

One of the most common questions I get asked is…what do you do for work?

And honestly, it’s not a simple answer, so I thought I would break down the things I do for work so that you can see what I technically do during a work day.

1. This blog. I have a personal blog and I write about all of the things I am passionate about

2. I’ve got 3 self-published books on Amazon. Blissful Living, Blissful Living Journal and The Daily Bliss.

3. I have a monthly coaching membership, Manifest Bliss membership where I have bi-monthly live community calls, hours and hours of video workshops, trainings and dozens of downloadable workbooks.

4. I have several online courses inside of The House of Bliss.

5. I have created various Ebooks/workbooks on topics like manifesting, spirituality and feng shui.

6. I have a podcast called Feminine & Ambitious.

7. I also do coaching sessions with clients where we work on their indset,

   Needless to say, I am a full time digital entrepreneur, online coach and content creator, my work plate is absolutely full and I am absolutely in love with what I do for work. The only way that I can stay on track with all of the things is by scheduling myself by days of the week. It changes from month to month, as I put more focus on certain things during certain seasons. My point is strategy is key.

   If you would like to learn more about how to grow your own online business + brand as I have, join me in my program, ONLINE BOSS UNIVERSITY. This is a one-stop-shop to learn all about what building an online business looks like. You’ll learn the ins and outs of blogging, branding, social media, course creation, e-commerce, video, email marketing, etc. PLUS, join a supportive community so you can feel less alone in building your business. Check out the details here.

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Here is a peek at 2 of my books you can grab on Amazon, the colors are so on brand, no?

You may also like:

💛 The 12 Best books on Manifestation that transformed my life

💛 The 8 phases of Manifestation you need to know.

💛 How to build an abundance mindset

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