Do You Feel Disconnected From Your True Self? Here’s How to Get Back in Flow

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Have you ever felt like life is happening to you rather than for you? Like something is just off, but you can’t quite put your finger on what it is? You’re not alone. Many women experience moments of deep misalignment, where their energy, purpose, and intuition feel blocked.

The good news? Realignment doesn’t have to take years. When you know the signs of disconnection and take intentional steps to shift your energy, you can step back into flow pretty quickly. In fact, you can begin to feel reconnected in just 21 days (the specific number of days it takes to reprogram your neural pathways). More on this later.

First, let’s talk about what alignment actually is.

What Does It Mean to Be in Alignment?

Alignment is the state of being deeply connected to your higher self—the most authentic, intuitive, and empowered version of you.

It means living in harmony with your true desires, values, and purpose rather than feeling stuck in patterns of doubt, fear, or external expectations. When you are in alignment, your thoughts, emotions, and actions flow effortlessly, and life feels more meaningful and guided. You no longer feel like you're forcing things to happen; instead, opportunities, relationships, and manifestations naturally unfold in your favor.

Being in alignment isn’t about being perfect—it’s about tuning in to your inner guidance and moving through life with trust and ease. You feel a sense of inner peace, clarity, and confidence, even when faced with challenges. It’s the difference between struggling against the current versus flowing effortlessly toward the life you’re meant to live. And the best part? When you are aligned, you become a magnet for the things you truly desire—whether it's love, success, abundance, or happiness.

Here are 21 signs you may be out of alignment—and what you can do to fix it.

21 Signs You’re Out of Alignment with Your Higher Self

You feel stuck in repetitive patterns – No matter how much you try to change, the same struggles keep showing up.
You constantly second-guess your decisions – Your intuition feels distant, and you struggle to trust yourself.
You wake up feeling drained, uninspired, or lost – Even when you get enough sleep, something still feels off.
You attract relationships that don’t truly fulfill you – Friends, partners, or coworkers feel misaligned with who you really are.
You overthink everything – Anxiety and analysis paralysis keep you from moving forward.
You feel like something is missing – Even when everything looks fine on the outside, something inside you feels unfulfilled.
Your manifestations aren’t coming through – You’re doing all the “right” things, but abundance and opportunities aren’t flowing.
You’re always exhausted, no matter what you do – Energetic depletion is a clear sign of misalignment.
You find yourself people-pleasing or playing small – You hold back, afraid of stepping into your full power.
You ignore red flags – Whether in relationships, work, or habits, you tolerate things that deep down you know aren’t serving you.
You’re more reactive than intentional – Instead of flowing through life, you feel like you’re constantly putting out fires.
You procrastinate on things that matter to you – Your soul’s desires get pushed aside for distractions or busywork.
You feel disconnected from your body – You may ignore your body’s signals, struggle with self-care, or feel out of touch with your sensuality.
You have a hard time feeling grateful – Even good moments don’t feel as fulfilling as they should.
You feel resistance around taking action – Instead of feeling inspired, things feel heavy or forced.
You experience frequent self-doubt – Your inner voice is full of “What if I’m not good enough?” thoughts.
You seek external validation constantly – Instead of trusting your own wisdom, you look to others for answers.
Your creativity feels blocked – You struggle to access inspiration, flow, or passion.
You feel like you’re “too much” or “not enough” – Perfectionism or fear of judgment keeps you stuck.
You often feel disconnected from your emotions – You numb out with distractions instead of processing your feelings.
You’ve forgotten what it feels like to trust yourself completely – Your inner wisdom is clouded, making it hard to move with confidence.

How Getting in Alignment Transforms Your Life

When you are in alignment with your higher self, everything in life starts to flow effortlessly. You experience greater clarity, stronger intuition, and an undeniable sense of purpose. Instead of feeling lost or uncertain, you begin to attract the right people, opportunities, and experiences that align with your true desires.

Alignment allows you to make better decisions with confidence, reduces stress, and deepens your connection to yourself and the universe. When you’re aligned, life feels lighter, more joyful, and filled with synchronicities that guide you in the right direction.

How Alignment Supercharges Your Manifestations

Manifestation is all about energetic frequency. When you are out of alignment, you send mixed signals to the universe, making it difficult to attract what you truly desire. But when you align with your higher self, you naturally elevate your energy, making it easier to manifest effortlessly.

In alignment, your desires feel within reach because you’re operating from a place of abundance rather than lack. You trust the process, take inspired action, and allow manifestations to flow without resistance. Whether you’re calling in love, success, or financial abundance, alignment is the key that unlocks it all.

The Incredible Benefits of Being in Alignment with Your Higher Self

✨ Clarity & Inner Peace – You no longer second-guess yourself or feel lost. Decisions become easier, and you move through life with confidence.

💡 Stronger Intuition – Your inner guidance becomes crystal clear, helping you navigate challenges with ease and trust.

🚀 Faster & Effortless Manifestation – When you're aligned, you naturally attract what you desire because your energy is in sync with your dreams.

💖 Deeper Self-Love & Acceptance – You fully embrace who you are, letting go of self-doubt and stepping into your worth.

🔋 Increased Energy & Vitality – Alignment removes energetic blocks, allowing you to feel more vibrant, inspired, and motivated.

🌿 Reduced Stress & Anxiety – When you're in flow with your soul’s purpose, life feels lighter, and worries no longer control you.

🌀 Synchronicities & Divine Guidance – You start experiencing "magical" coincidences that guide you in the right direction.

💰 Abundance & Prosperity – Financial and career opportunities flow more easily because you’re open to receiving.

💫 Healthy, Fulfilling Relationships – You attract people who match your energy and align with your soul’s growth.

🌟 Feeling Deeply Connected to Your Purpose – Life no longer feels like you’re just going through the motions. Every action feels intentional and meaningful.

5 tips for getting into realignment:

01. Quiet all of the outside noise. Start spending more time alone. Stop scrolling social media or looking outside of you for validation and answers.

02. Start journaling daily. One of the best ways to hear from your higher self is through writing out your stream of consciousness thoughts on paper. I am a big fan of morning pages or this journaling ritual.

03. Be in your body. Start a yoga practice, do deep breathwork. Put your hand on your heart and just feel your heartbeat. You want to get it the habit of connection with your body. It’s always speaking to you.

04. Get ready to take quick action. When you get an intuitive nudge, I don’t want you overthinking it or second guessing yourself. You need to be ready to move quickly and confidently.

05. Decide that you are meant for this. And know that everything you desire is meant for you to experience. Everything you want, wants you too.

How to Realign in Just 21 Days

If any of these signs resonated with you, your soul is nudging you toward change. The truth is, alignment isn’t something you have to chase—it’s something you can return to.

That’s why I created Soul Aligned: A 21-Day Workshop—to guide you back to the most empowered, intuitive, and magnetic version of yourself.

Inside this transformative program, you’ll experience:

✅ Daily Guided Activations – Simple yet powerful practices to shift your energy instantly.
✅ High-Frequency Mindset Reprogramming – Release self-doubt and embody confidence.
✅ Soul Expansion Rituals – Strengthen your intuition and connect with your purpose.
✅ Exclusive Community & Support – Surround yourself with high-vibe women on the same journey.