Activating the Inner Masculine: A Step-by-Step Guide to Reclaiming Your Power, Regulating Emotions and Becoming a Secure Woman

If you’ve ever poured yourself into your business, shown up consistently, believed in your vision, and still found yourself staring at disappointing results, wondering why it feels like nothing is working no matter how much effort you give — this post is for you.

If you’ve ever gone through a breakup that left you feeling not just heartbroken, but disoriented — like you gave your heart, your effort, your patience, and still somehow ended up empty — this post is for you too.

If you’ve ever watched a friendship slowly unravel, not because of one big moment, but because something quietly shifted… and you were left questioning what you missed, what you tolerated, or why you tried so hard to hold something together that no longer wanted to meet you — this is for you.

Because the pain that comes from these moments isn’t just sadness or frustration.

Many women experience this during breakups, friendship endings, business setbacks, or money stress, and it often shows up as emotional spiraling, nervous system dysregulation, or a loss of trust in themselves.

It’s the kind of pain that activates your nervous system.
The kind that makes you want answers immediately.
The kind that tempts you to overthink, overexplain, overwork, or do something — anything — to make the discomfort stop.

And if you’ve ever found yourself spiraling, chasing closure, questioning your worth, or pushing harder when what you really needed was grounding and clarity, then I want you to know this:

You are not weak.
You are not dramatic.
And you are not failing at healing.

You are simply being invited into a deeper level of self-possession — one that most women were never taught.

This guide is here to show you how a woman becomes secure not by bypassing pain, but by integrating it — using inner masculine containment to alchemize emotion into power, clarity, boundaries, and a new identity that life responds to differently.

At a certain point, a woman realizes that her emotional activation isn’t limited to love.

It shows up when:

• a relationship ends

• a friend disappoints her

• a launch doesn’t go as planned

• money feels tight or unpredictable

• someone misunderstands her work

• an opportunity falls through

And the pattern is often the same.

Urgency.
Overthinking.
A pull to do something immediately.

This guide is for the woman who is ready to stop reacting across every area of life — love, money, business, identity — and start integrating instead.

Because what isn’t integrated doesn’t just hurt — it repeats.

In this guide, you’ll learn:

• how to regulate emotions as a woman without suppressing them

• how to use inner masculine energy to create emotional safety

• how to alchemize pain into power through emotional integration

• how to embody secure feminine energy in love, money, and business

• how to stop emotional spiraling and create nervous system stability

Related Reading: The ultimate guide to letting go of people pleasing

What Is Inner Masculine vs. Inner Feminine (And Why You Need Both)

When we talk about the inner feminine and inner masculine, we’re not talking about gender roles — we’re talking about internal energies that exist within every woman.

Your inner feminine is your feeling nature.
It’s intuition, emotion, creativity, sensitivity, and depth.
It’s your ability to feel fully, desire deeply, and move with emotional truth.

Your inner masculine is your container.
It’s structure, steadiness, boundaries, discernment, and self-leadership.
It’s what allows you to hold yourself while you feel — without collapsing, spiraling, or outsourcing your power.

Most women are deeply connected to their feminine — they feel everything.
But many were never taught how to develop a healthy inner masculine to support that depth.

Without inner masculine containment, feminine emotion can feel overwhelming.
Without feminine presence, masculine structure becomes rigid or controlling.

A secure woman has both.

She allows her emotions to move — and she has the internal stability to stay grounded while they do.
She feels deeply — without losing herself.
She processes pain — without rushing to fix, distract, or project it outward.

This balance is what creates emotional integration, nervous system regulation, and true secure feminine energy.

Inner masculine containment is not suppression.
It is safety.

And when a woman feels safe inside herself, she no longer needs to chase reassurance, clarity, closure, or control — in love, business, or life.

Why Inner Masculine Containment Is Essential (Especially for Women Who Feel Deeply)

Many women are highly intuitive, emotionally intelligent, and sensitive to energy.

That’s a gift — but without inner masculine containment, that sensitivity can turn into:

• emotional spirals

• impulsive decisions

• over-explaining

• over-working

• chasing clarity or reassurance

The inner masculine is not suppression.
It is structure, steadiness, and leadership.

It says:

“I can feel this without being ruled by it.”

A secure woman doesn’t numb emotion —
she holds it long enough for it to transform.

Step 1: Pause the Impulse to React or Resolve (Emotional Regulation for Women)

(Love, Business, Money, Life)

The moment something activates you — heartbreak, rejection, disappointment, uncertainty — the nervous system often wants immediacy.

In love, this can look like:

• wanting to text

• wanting closure

• wanting reassurance

In business or money, it can look like:

• immediately changing your strategy

• hustling harder

• lowering prices

• questioning your worth

• rushing to “fix” the feeling with action

The secure woman pauses.

This pause is inner masculine leadership saying:

“Nothing needs to be decided right now.”

Practical application:

• Give yourself 24–72 hours before responding, changing plans, or making decisions

• Put space between emotion and action

• Remind yourself: Containment first. Clarity later.

This alone prevents most regret.

Step 2: Separate the Emotion From the Story

Emotion lives in the body.
Story lives in the mind.

A secure woman knows the difference.

Instead of replaying:

• what they said

• what it means

• what could happen

She turns inward.

Practical application:

• Ask: Where do I feel this in my body?

• Is it tightness in the chest? Pressure in the throat? Heaviness in the belly?

• Place a hand there. Breathe slowly.

• Do not narrate. Just feel.

This applies whether:

• a relationship triggers abandonment

• a business dip triggers fear

• money uncertainty triggers control

When sensation moves, the story loosens its grip.

Step 3: Allow the Emotion to Complete — Without Spiraling or Distracting

A secure woman allows emotion, but she does not drown in it.

She also doesn’t escape it through:

• scrolling

• drinking

• socializing when she needs solitude

• working excessively

• over-consuming content

Healthy emotional completion looks like:

• crying without explaining

• anger without acting on it

• grief without collapsing

Practical application:

Create a container for feeling:

• 10–30 minutes of intentional space

• Sit, lie down, journal, or breathe

• Let emotion rise and fall naturally

When the container ends, return to the present moment.

This teaches the nervous system:

“I can feel deeply and remain safe.”

Step 4: Choose Integration Over Distraction

This is where many women unintentionally delay their healing.

Instead of staying with themselves, they:

• book plans

• fill their schedule

• jump back into productivity

• hustle to feel in control

A secure woman chooses integration over stimulation.

Practical application:

During emotional processing:

• Take a long walk without headphones

• Take a bath or shower and let your body soften

• Sit in silence with tea

• Do something gentle and creative (writing, arranging flowers, cooking, art)

• Meditate instead of “figuring it out”

In business moments:

• Resist the urge to immediately pivot or hustle

• Regulate first — then act from clarity

Step 5: Stay Long Enough for the Lesson to Arrive

A secure woman does not ask:

“How do I get past this?”

She asks:

• What is this refining in me?

• What boundary is becoming clear?

• What standard is rising?

• What version of me is complete?

This applies to:

• relationships that end

• friendships that shift

• launches that flop

• money lessons that sting

Practical application:

Journal or reflect on:

• Where did I override myself?

• What truth is undeniable now?

• What would self-trust do next?

Lessons don’t punish.
They upgrade.

Step 6: Release the Need for External Closure

A secure woman understands this deeply:

Closure is not a conversation someone owes you.
It is the natural result of full integration.

Whether it’s:

• a person

• a client

• a deal

• a season

When emotion completes and the lesson lands, the charge dissolves.

Practical application:

Before reaching out, ask:

• Will this deepen my integration?

• Or will it reopen the wound?

Choose inner authority over external validation.

Step 7: Protect the Integration Phase

After insight arrives, the identity is still forming.

This is a sacred window.

A secure woman:

• reduces external input

• limits advice and opinions

• avoids destabilizing conversations

• gives the nervous system time to settle

Practical application:

• Choose quiet evenings over social distraction

• Limit content consumption

• Let the new identity stabilize before explaining it

This is inner masculine protection — not avoidance.

Step 8: Anchor the New Secure Identity

After integration, you’ll notice:

• different responses

• cleaner boundaries

• less urgency

• deeper self-trust

This is not effort.
It’s embodiment.

Practical application:

• Name what has changed

• Act from the new standard quietly

• No announcements. No proving.

Power doesn’t explain itself.

Why Becoming a Secure Woman Changes Everything

A secure woman doesn’t chase love.
She doesn’t panic in business.
She doesn’t collapse around money.

Because her nervous system no longer believes:

“I must act immediately to be safe.”

From this state:

• love meets her differently

• money stabilizes

• creativity returns

• clarity replaces chaos

This isn’t manifestation.
It’s identity alignment.

This entire guide is the foundation of the work inside The Secure Woman Identity Reset, where we focus on emotional integration, nervous system safety, inner masculine containment, and embodied secure feminine energy.

Inside, we go deeper into:

• nervous system safety

• emotional integration

• inner masculine containment

• secure feminine embodiment

So you’re not just understanding this —
you’re living it.

👉 Explore the Secure Woman Identity Reset here

Final Reminder

You don’t need to react to reclaim your power.
You don’t need to rush to be secure.
You don’t need to bypass pain to be evolved.

You need structure and softness.
Containment and feeling.
Presence long enough to change.

That is how a woman becomes secure.
That is how pain becomes power.

You may also like:

💛 The 12 Best books on Manifestation that transformed my life

💛 The 8 phases of Manifestation you need to know.

💛 11 simple ways to regulate your nervous system

💛 How to boost your oxytocin to manifest more

Download my FREE Manifestation Mindset Makeover workbook here.

Please feel free to email me at ashlina@thedecorista.com if you have any questions!  I’m always happy to help with decorating, life advice or even picking out a specific perfume!  Have an amazing day!!

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2026 NERVOUS SYSTEM GLOW UP GUIDE: THE 15 TOOLS THAT HELPED ME FEEL SAFE, REGULATED & MAGNETIC AGAIN IN MY 40s

Over the past few months, I’ve been doing some of the deepest inner work of my life — the kind of work that doesn’t look glamorous on the outside, but completely changes the way you move through the world. And as we step into the energetic portal of the new year, one thing has become crystal clear to me:

Your nervous system determines the kind of life you get to hold.

You can manifest the relationship, the home, the money, the glow-up — but if your body doesn’t feel safe enough to receive it, you will either sabotage it, push it away, or collapse under the pressure of having the thing you asked for. And this has been a huge part of the work I’ve been doing this season, both personally and inside Manifestation Queen Academy: learning to self-source safety, be present in the moment, regulate my body, and create a life that feels good on the inside, not just the outside.

As women, especially in our 40s, we carry decades of patterns we didn’t choose — old survival wiring, abandonment imprints, feast-or-famine money cycles, attachment triggers, and nervous system habits we inherited or absorbed without question. But the truth is: you can rewire all of it. And when you do, your entire manifestation power changes. Your aura softens. Your receiving expands. Your desires stop feeling far away.

Read this post: What is the nervous system & why does it matter

This post is my full Nervous System Glow-Up: the exact tools, rituals, and high-support items I’ve used to feel safe, grounded, feminine, regulated, and magnetic again. These are the practices that have helped me slow down my mind, reconnect with my body, amplify my manifestation results, and finally feel like I can hold the love and abundance I call in.

If you’re ready to enter the new year feeling regulated, empowered, safe, and deeply supported from within — this guide is for you. Let’s glow-up the one thing that changes every area of your life: your nervous system.

Listen to this podcast episode:

Why Your Nervous System Determines Your Reality

Your nervous system is the foundation of your entire life. It shapes:

• How much love you can accept

• How much money you feel safe holding

• How you show up in relationships

• Your self-worth

• Your boundaries

• Your magnetism

• Your ability to manifest

• The way you respond to stress

• Whether you live in survival… or in safety

Most women try to think their way into a better life. But the truth is:

Your body manifests before your mind does.

If your body has learned that “love equals abandonment,” “money equals instability,” or “good things don’t last,” then your nervous system will stay in a low-level state of contraction — always preparing for impact.

Without inner safety, even the blessings you prayed for can feel overwhelming.

This is why in Manifestation Queen we spend an entire month on nervous system work. Because the truth is:

You cannot receive what your body does not feel safe holding.

You cannot magnetize what your nervous system is bracing against.

You cannot glow-up if your body is still living in survival mode.

The good news?
Your nervous system is incredibly adaptable.

You can retrain it, rewire it, and reshape your internal experience. You can teach your body that safety exists now — even if it didn’t before.

And when you do… your manifestation results change instantly.

Signs You Need a Nervous System Glow-Up

If you are experiencing any of these, your body is signaling that it’s ready for a reset:

1. You don’t feel safe when things finally get good

You get the relationship → you panic.
Money comes in → you spend it or avoid it.
Success grows → the urge to sabotage shows up.

That’s not you being “dramatic.”
That’s your nervous system protecting you from perceived risk.

2. You chase instead of magnetize

This happens when your body believes safety comes from controlling outcomes, fixing things, or staying hyper-alert.

A regulated woman doesn’t chase.
She trusts — and becomes magnetic.

3. You constantly look for reassurance

Not because you're insecure — but because your nervous system is scanning for danger.

4. You feel overwhelmed by love, attention, or abundance

When receiving feels like pressure, not pleasure, your body has learned survival over softness.

5. You manifest… but can’t hold the results

This is the classic feast-or-famine cycle:

Money comes → drops.
Love deepens → you spiral.
Clients arrive → you freeze.

This is the biggest sign your nervous system needs repair.

My Nervous System Glow-Up Toolkit: The Tools That Changed Everything

These tools helped me create a home, body, and lifestyle that feel safe, feminine, and deeply supportive.

Related Reading: How to create a home that calms your nervous system

HOME WELLNESS TOOLS (Safety through environment)

Your home is your first nervous system regulator.

These items create calm, clean, high-vibe air and supportive grounding energy.

✨ 1. Molekule Air Purifier

If you want one tool that instantly shifts the energy of your home, this is it. The Molekule doesn’t just filter the air — it destroys pollutants on a molecular level, leaving your space feeling open, clean, and deeply calming. I noticed my breathing softened, my sleep improved, and the heaviness I didn’t even realize I was carrying… lifted.

This is the nervous-system reset device I recommend most — especially for women building a feminine sanctuary at home.

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✨ 2. Dyson Humidifier + Purifier Combo

My skin, my sleep, my mood… all improved when I added this into my space. When the air is hydrated and clean, your body relaxes without effort. That’s why this humidifier is one of my top nervous system regulation tools — it keeps my atmosphere soft, breathable, and supportive all year long.

This is a high-ticket investment that truly pays you back through comfort, glow, and calm.

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✨ 3. Vitruvi Aromatherapy Diffuser

Aromatherapy is one of the fastest ways to communicate “safety” to your brain. This elegant diffuser fills your space with therapeutic-grade scents like lavender, bergamot, and vetiver — oils scientifically shown to lower cortisol and activate the parasympathetic nervous system.

I use it morning and night to cue my body: you are safe now.

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✨ 4. Weighted Blanket (Deep Pressure Therapy)

If you’re someone who spirals at night or feels easily overwhelmed, this blanket feels like an anchor for your body. Deep pressure touch releases serotonin and oxytocin — the "safety + bonding" hormones — which flips the body out of fight-or-flight almost instantly.

It’s one of the easiest, coziest, most supportive nervous system tools you can own.

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✨ 5. Himalayan Salt Lamp or Warm Amber Light

Lighting is one of the most underrated nervous system regulators. Harsh overhead lights keep your brain on high alert, but warm amber light signals the body to soften and release tension.

This lamp creates a grounding, feminine atmosphere that makes your evenings feel luxurious and your nervous system feel held.

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✨ 6. PEMF Mat (Pulsed Electromagnetic Field Therapy)

This is a true luxury nervous-system upgrade. PEMF helps reduce inflammation, balance cortisol, restore energy, regulate mood, and bring your body back into its natural healing rhythms.

If you want a tool that makes your home feel like a wellness spa — this is it.

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✨ 7. Red Light Therapy Panel

Red light is like sunshine for your cells. It boosts mitochondrial energy, supports hormone balance, reduces inflammation, and improves mood — all crucial for nervous system regulation.

I use mine in the morning as part of my feminine glow-up ritual. It wakes up your body gently and leaves your skin glowing.

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BEAUTY + EMBODIMENT TOOLS

Beauty rituals regulate your nervous system because they bring you into your body.

✨ 8. LED Face Mask (Red + NIR Light)

This is more than a beauty tool — it’s a nervous system soothing device. Red light calms inflammation, supports healing, and gives your skin a radiant glow. But it also relaxes the mind, quiets racing thoughts, and reduces tension in the body.

I use mine during my nighttime downshift routine to transition out of productivity mode and into feminine softness.

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✨ 9. Ice Roller + Warm Therapy Tools

Cold therapy stimulates the vagus nerve — the main pathway of relaxation and emotional regulation — while warm tools melt away tension stored in the jaw, neck, and chest.

Use them when you feel triggered, anxious, or overwhelmed.
They help bring you back into your body quickly.

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✨ 10. Luxury Body Oil Ritual

Slow, intentional touch is one of the most powerful ways to rewire your nervous system for safety and self-connection. Applying body oil at night becomes a ritual of self-soothing, embodiment, and grounding.

It’s a glow-up moment for both your skin and your emotional state.

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MIND-BODY AND MANIFESTATION TOOLS

These tools help shift thought patterns and somatic responses.

✨ 11. Guided Journal (Shadow Work, Subconscious Rewiring)

Journaling is where you regulate your thoughts into coherence. It brings your mind back into the present moment and helps your body transition out of survival thinking.

This is how I slow down my inner world enough to actually feel safe again.

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✨ 12. Meditation + Sound Machine

This is one of the greatest nervous-system hacks for women who struggle to relax. A sound machine (or meditation device) cues your brain to shift from beta (stress) into alpha/theta (calm).

The moment my sound machine comes on, my body knows:
We are safe. We are done for the day. We can soften now.

✨ 13. Breathwork

Breath is the remote control of your nervous system.
One minute of guided breathwork can shift your state faster than affirmations ever will.

This is the tool that helps your body regulate even when your mind feels chaotic.

✨ 14. Nervous System Healing Books

Books by authors like Deb Dana, Peter Levine, and Dr. Nicole LePera have been foundational in my own healing. They help you understand what your body is doing and why — and more importantly, how to reclaim your power.

I recommend starting with 2–3 to begin rewiring your internal blueprint.

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My Daily Nervous System Glow-Up Ritual

These rituals are simple, soothing, and unbelievably effective at signaling safety to your body. The key is consistency — not perfection. Every day, you’re teaching your nervous system what it feels like to be held, softened, and supported.

🌅 MORNING FEMININE RESET ROUTINE

This is how I set the tone for my entire day. Before the emails, the to-do lists, the noise — I regulate first. I choose me first.

✨ 1. 10 Minutes of Silence

This isn’t meditation (unless you want it to be). It’s spaciousness. It’s you telling your body:

“We don’t start the day in fight-or-flight anymore.”

How to actually do it:

• Sit somewhere cozy — bed, couch, morning light spot.

• Place one hand on your chest, one hand on your belly.

• Breathe naturally. No forcing.

• Let your face soften.

• Feel your weight supported beneath you.

• Instead of “clearing your mind,” simply notice your breath.

• Let your thoughts float through like clouds without attaching to any of them.

This deliberate quiet stabilizes your vagus nerve and anchors you into your feminine energy before the world needs anything from you.

✨ 2. The Slow Coffee (or Tea) Ritual

This one ritual alone changed my entire nervous system.

Most of us drink our morning coffee like a race — standing, multitasking, rushing, thinking ahead. But your body doesn’t regulate in speed. It regulates in presence.

How to actually do it:

• Make your coffee slowly, like it’s a sacred offering.

• Hold your mug with both hands (this creates bilateral stimulation and signals safety).

• Feel the warmth in your palms.

• Bring the mug to your chest.

• Inhale deeply — let the smell tell your nervous system: “We are here. We are safe.”

• Sit down somewhere peaceful, even for one minute.

• Take your first sip with full awareness.

Your brain associates warmth + stillness with regulation.
Your morning coffee becomes medicine.

✨ 3. Journaling for Grounding

This isn’t a long journaling session. It’s a regulation check-in. Writing activates the prefrontal cortex, the rational, visionary, and problem-solving center of the brain. It decreases activity in the amygdala — meaning fewer spiraling thoughts and emotional overwhelm. Journaling helps process stored stress and creates emotional coherence.

How to do it:
Write for 2–3 minutes answering questions like:

• What does my body need today?

• How do I want to feel?

• What am I available for?

• What am I not available for?

Journaling organizes your thoughts and helps your nervous system transition out of emotional clutter.

✨ 4. Natural Light Exposure

Light is one of your body’s main safety cues.

How to do it:

• Open blinds.

• Step outside for 1–3 minutes.

• Allow sunlight to hit your face.

• Breathe in through your nose for 4 seconds, out for 6 seconds.

This resets your circadian rhythm and signals “daytime safety,” lowering cortisol.

✨ 5. A Mini Beauty Ritual

Beauty is regulation. Touch is healing. Ritual is grounding.

How to do it:

• Apply moisturizer slowly.

• Give your face a gentle massage.

• Use your LED mask, ice roller, or gua sha intentionally.

• Breathe deeply while you do it.

Your nervous system softens when you nurture yourself first.

🌤 AFTERNOON RE-ANCHOR ROUTINE

This is how you reset your energy when the day starts to speed up.

✨ 1. 60-Second Vagus Nerve Reset

Just one minute can change your entire state.

How to do it:

• Sit tall.

• Turn your eyes (not your head) to the right for 30 seconds.

• Then to the left for 30 seconds.

• Wait for the swallow, the sigh, or the yawn — that’s your vagus nerve releasing tension.

Instant regulation.

✨ 2. Breathwork Break

Your breath is the remote control of your body.

How to do it:
Try the 4–7–8 breath:

• Inhale 4

• Hold 7

• Exhale 8

Do 3 rounds.
Your heart rate drops on the very first cycle.

✨ 3. Hydration + Nervous System Support

Dehydration mimics anxiety.
Hydration is regulation.

How to do it:
Take a long, intentional sip of water.
Add electrolytes if needed.
Feel it move through your body.

✨ 4. Step Away From Screens

Screens hijack your nervous system.

How to do it:
Give yourself 30–60 seconds of looking out a window, at something far away.
This widens your visual field — which is a direct cue for safety.

🌙 EVENING DOWN-SHIFT ROUTINE

Your nighttime glow-up is where the deepest nervous system healing happens.

✨ 1. Dim All Lights

Light equals alertness. Darkness equals rest.

How to do it:

• Turn on lamps instead of overhead lights

• Use salt lamps or candles

• Let your environment slowly signal to your brain that the day is complete

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This helps regulate melatonin and calm your adrenals.

✨ 2. Weighted Blanket Moment

This is where your body melts.

How to do it:

• Lay down with the blanket over your legs or full body

• Place one hand on your heart

• Exhale longer than you inhale

This simulates deep pressure touch — one of the strongest signals of safety.

✨ 3. Red Light Therapy or Warm Light Ritual

Red light soothes overstimulated nerves.

How to do it:

• Sit with your red light panel for 5–10 minutes

• Let your breath slow naturally

• Focus on the warmth entering your chest and belly

This is nervous-system nourishment.

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✨ 4. Lavender or Bergamot Aromatherapy

Scent is a nervous-system shortcut.

How to do it:
Turn on your diffuser with:

• Lavender (calming)

• Vetiver (grounding)

• Bergamot (stabilizing)

Your brain associates this scent with safety over time.

✨ 5. Digital Sunset (Phone Off or Away)

Your nervous system cannot fully relax while being stimulated.

How to do it:
Put your phone in another room or across the room.
Tell your body:
“We are done with the world for the day.”

✨ 6. Body Oil Ritual (Somatic Softening)

This ritual rewires your body for gentle, nourishing touch.

How to do it:

• Apply oil slowly

• Move your hands with intention

• Focus on your thighs, stomach, chest, neck

• Whisper to your body: “You’re safe with me.”

This is deep nervous system re-parenting.

Your Nervous System Glow-Up Is the Foundation of Your 2026 Transformation

Healing your nervous system is not just a wellness trend — it is the foundation of every true glow-up. When your body feels regulated, safe, and supported, everything in your life becomes easier. Your relationships deepen. Your money stabilizes. Your manifestations arrive faster. Your confidence expands. Your energy becomes magnetic instead of anxious.

This is why a nervous system glow-up is one of the most life-changing things you can do for yourself as you enter 2026. These tools are not just products — they are anchors. They support your emotional well-being, your feminine softness, your manifestation power, and your ability to receive the love and abundance you desire.

If you feel ready to build deeper safety, self-trust, and inner stability this year, I invite you to explore our latest module inside Manifestation Queen Academy, where we are doing the transformational work of nervous system healing, self-sourcing safety, and expanding your receiving field.

A regulated woman is an unstoppable woman — and this is your moment to rise.

Save this guide, return to it when you need support, and begin adding the tools that feel aligned. Your glow-up starts in your nervous system… and your next-level life begins when your body finally feels safe enough to receive it.

You may also like:

💛 The 12 Best books on Manifestation that transformed my life

💛 The 8 phases of Manifestation you need to know.

💛 11 simple ways to regulate your nervous system

💛 How to boost your oxytocin to manifest more

Download my FREE Manifestation Mindset Makeover workbook here.

Please feel free to email me at ashlina@thedecorista.com if you have any questions!  I’m always happy to help with decorating, life advice or even picking out a specific perfume!  Have an amazing day!!

Also, check out my Amazon shop HERE to shop all my favorite things, tips and tricks. You can also download the free LIKETOKNOW.IT app and follow me HERE.

STAY IN THE KNOW:  Don’t forget to sign up for my exclusive Love Letters for STYLE TIPS, LIFE ADVICE, COSMIC TEA, AND MUCH MORE!

As always, thank you so much for stopping by today, I truly appreciate all of you! xo, Ashlina

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