What is Perimenopause? 14 Proven Ways to Navigate It Flawlessly {podcast ep. 362}

I reached a point in my life where I was constantly tired, burnt out, and wondering what on earth was happening inside my body. No matter how much I rested, I still felt exhausted. I noticed I was more anxious, more irritable, and I wasn’t sleeping the way I used to. It felt like something was off — but I couldn’t quite put my finger on it.

So, I did what many of us would do: I went to my doctor and asked for blood work. I needed answers. What she explained to me was something I had barely even heard of before — perimenopause. And here’s the thing: this is something women should become aware of long before it begins.

The truth is, no one really prepares us for this transition. We hear plenty about puberty, pregnancy, and menopause, but almost nothing about the years in between when our hormones begin to shift. That silence leaves women feeling scared, confused, and unprepared.

That’s why I want to share this post with you — so you feel informed, supported, and ready to navigate this chapter with confidence. In this post, I’ll break down:

• What perimenopause actually is

• The science of what’s happening inside your body

• Why hormone balance is so important

• And 14 powerful tips to help you move through perimenopause with ease and grace

Listen to the episode breakdown here:

What is Perimenopause?

Perimenopause is the natural transition before menopause, when your hormone levels start shifting. It can begin anywhere between age 39–44 and typically lasts 3–4 years, but for some women, it can stretch to 8–10 years.

The official end of perimenopause is marked when you’ve gone 12 consecutive months without a period — that’s when you’ve entered menopause.

What’s Really Happening Inside Your Body (and Mind)

Perimenopause isn’t just about physical changes — it’s also about what happens in your brain and nervous system as your hormones shift. When you understand the why, the anxiety, mood swings, and brain fog suddenly make more sense.

Here’s the science, simply explained:

• Progesterone Declines First
  Progesterone is often called the “calming hormone” because it has a soothing effect on the brain. When it drops, you may feel more anxious, restless, or have trouble sleeping. Without enough progesterone, your body is more sensitive to stress, and fear-based thoughts can feel louder.

• Estrogen Fluctuates Wildly
  Estrogen affects serotonin and dopamine — the “feel-good” neurotransmitters that keep your mood steady and your brain sharp. As estrogen spikes and dips, you may feel sudden waves of sadness, irritability, or brain fog. One day you feel fine, the next you’re exhausted or emotional. It’s not you being “too sensitive” — it’s biology.

• Cortisol Rises
  Cortisol is your stress hormone. Because perimenopause makes your body less resilient to stress, cortisol can become overactive. This is why women in their 40s often notice more overwhelm, intrusive or fearful thoughts, and even panic symptoms. Your nervous system is on higher alert.

• Sleep Disruption Makes It Worse
  As hormones shift, your sleep cycle can become fragmented. Poor sleep then raises cortisol even more, lowers melatonin, and makes anxiety and irritability harder to manage. It becomes a cycle of stress and exhaustion.

✨ Why this matters:
When you recognize that these symptoms are biological, not personal flaws, it changes everything. You realize: “I’m not broken. My hormones are shifting, and I can support my body through this.”

With the right strategies — from protein and strength training to nervous system care and hormone support — you can calm these internal shifts and feel more balanced.

Related Reading: How to create more calm in your life

14 Tips to Navigate Perimenopause Flawlessly

Here’s how you can support your body and mind through this season, with science-backed tips and practical takeaways:

💉 1. Get Your Hormones Tested

• Ask for a full hormone panel: estrogen, progesterone, testosterone, FSH, LH, thyroid, and cortisol.

• Fun fact: Saliva or DUTCH tests often give more accurate hormone fluctuation insights than basic blood work.

• Takeaway: Don’t guess — test. Knowledge is the first step to feeling better.

🌿 2. Consider Hormone Support (BHRT)

• Bioidentical hormone replacement therapy (BHRT) uses compounds that mimic your body’s natural hormones.

• Research shows progesterone can improve sleep, reduce anxiety, and ease night sweats.

• Takeaway: Explore options with a women’s hormone specialist — this isn’t one-size-fits-all.

🍳 3. Prioritize Protein

• Women over 40 benefit from 1.0–1.2g protein per pound of body weight daily (example: 150 lbs = ~150g).

• Protein stabilizes blood sugar, supports muscle, and boosts metabolism.

• Takeaway: Build meals around protein — eggs, Greek yogurt, lean meats, legumes, protein powders.

  Related Reading: 15 delicious high protein snack ideas for women

🏋️‍♀️ 4. Strength Train Over Cardio

• A Harvard study found women who lifted weights 2–3x per week had better bone density and less belly fat than cardio-only groups.

• Muscle loss accelerates after 40 — strength training protects against this.

• Takeaway: Aim for 2–3 sessions per week, using weights that challenge you for 8–12 reps.

🥑 5. Balance Blood Sugar

• Fluctuating estrogen worsens blood sugar swings.

• Tips:

  • Always pair carbs with protein or fat.

  • Don’t drink coffee on an empty stomach.

  • Walk 10 minutes after meals → lowers glucose spikes by 20%+.

• Takeaway: Balanced blood sugar = stable mood, weight, and energy.

🧘 6. Support Your Nervous System

• High cortisol makes symptoms worse.

• Studies show meditation can lower cortisol by 25%.

• Takeaway: Try 5 minutes of box breathing, journaling, or meditation daily.

😴 7. Prioritize Sleep

• Poor sleep increases ghrelin (hunger hormone) and worsens brain fog.

• Tips:

  • Magnesium glycinate (200–400mg) before bed.

  • Keep your room cool (68°F or lower).

  • Stick to consistent bed/wake times.

• Takeaway: Protect your sleep like medicine — it resets your hormones.

💧 8. Stay Hydrated

• Aim for half your body weight in ounces daily (150 lbs = 75 oz).

• Use electrolytes: sodium, potassium, magnesium, especially if sweating.

• Takeaway: Hydration reduces fatigue and helps regulate temperature.

💊 9. Supplement Smartly

Top 5 for perimenopause (check with your provider):

• Magnesium glycinate → sleep, relaxation

• Omega-3s → brain + inflammation

• Vitamin D3 + K2 → bones, mood

• Collagen → skin + joints

• CoQ10 → energy + heart health

• Takeaway: Supplements fill gaps, but start with diet + lifestyle.

🥦 10. Nourish Gut Health

• Gut bacteria help metabolize estrogen.

• Include: fiber (chia, flax), fermented foods (sauerkraut, yogurt), prebiotics (bananas, asparagus).

• Takeaway: A healthy gut = calmer hormones + smoother digestion.

👯 11. Find Community & Support

• Oxytocin (the bonding hormone) reduces cortisol and eases symptoms.

• Studies show women with strong social ties experience fewer menopausal symptoms.

• Takeaway: Schedule regular connection — coffee dates, group walks, book clubs. Join my Manifestation Queen Membership

📓 12. Track Your Cycle & Symptoms

• Use apps like Clue, or keep a journal.

• Tracking reveals patterns → you’ll see triggers and trends.

• Takeaway: Awareness helps you advocate for yourself and adjust lifestyle choices.

🌸 13. Release Perfectionism

• Perfectionism is linked to higher cortisol and worse sleep.

• Takeaway: Midlife isn’t about doing it all — it’s about doing what matters. Simplify routines and give yourself grace.

🛁 14. Invest in Self-Care

• Warm baths, skincare, journaling, yoga = oxytocin boosters.

• Oxytocin lowers stress hormones and supports emotional balance.

• Takeaway: Self-care isn’t indulgence. It’s hormone regulation.

Final Thoughts

Perimenopause is not the end of your vitality — it’s the beginning of a new season. With the right support, knowledge, and lifestyle shifts, you can feel strong, vibrant, and flawless.

If you’re feeling off, foggy, or unlike yourself — you are not broken. You’re evolving. ✨

Frequently Asked Questions About Perimenopause

Q: At what age does perimenopause usually start?
Perimenopause often begins in your early 40s, though some women notice changes as early as their late 30s. On average, it starts between ages 39–44 and lasts until menopause, which usually occurs around 51.

Q: How long does perimenopause last?
It varies from woman to woman. For some, it lasts just a few years. For others, symptoms can stretch 8–10 years. The average duration is 3–4 years.

Q: What’s the difference between perimenopause and menopause?
Perimenopause is the transition period leading up to menopause, when hormones fluctuate and cycles change. Menopause officially begins after you’ve gone 12 months without a period.

Q: Can you get pregnant during perimenopause?
Yes. Ovulation becomes less predictable, but pregnancy is still possible until you’ve reached full menopause.

Q: What are the first signs of perimenopause?
Many women first notice changes in their periods — either lighter, heavier, shorter, or longer. Other common early symptoms include brain fog, sleep issues, mood swings, and increased fatigue.

Q: Do all women need hormone therapy?
No. Some women manage symptoms through lifestyle changes alone. Others find hormone therapy life-changing. The best path is individual and should be guided by a qualified women’s health provider.

Q: What foods are best for perimenopause?
Focus on protein-rich foods, leafy greens, fiber, and healthy fats (like avocado and olive oil). Limiting sugar and processed carbs can help stabilize mood and energy.

Q: How can I manage weight gain during perimenopause?
Prioritize protein, strength training, and blood sugar balance. Managing stress and sleep also plays a huge role in weight management during this stage.

Emotional Intelligence: 5 Good Girl Habits That Block Your Manifestations + how to break them {podcast ep. 357}

If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing everything “right” when it comes to manifestation — scripting, visualizing, keeping your vibe high — but you’re still not seeing results, you’re not alone. The truth is, many women are unknowingly sabotaging their manifestation power with “good girl trauma habits.”

These are the unconscious behaviors we learned to keep the peace, stay likable, and fit into roles that made others comfortable. But while they may have once felt safe, they now energetically block your alignment, weaken your boundaries, and send mixed signals to the Universe.

Listen to the podcast episode here:

If you’re ready to stop shrinking into the ‘good girl’ and finally step into the magnetic woman you were always meant to be, Manifestation Queen Academy will walk you through the exact tools, rituals, and mindset shifts to manifest with confidence, clarity, and ease.

In this post, we’ll explore not only the 5 most common good girl trauma habits, but also the deeper issues of spiritual bypassing, the missing link of emotional intelligence, and a step-by-step framework to manifest in a grounded, powerful, and authentic way.

What Is Spiritual Bypassing (and Why It’s Hurting You)?

Spiritual bypassing happens when we use spiritual practices or beliefs to avoid facing real emotions. Think:

• Forcing positivity when you’re struggling.

• Pretending everything is fine so you don’t “lower your vibration.”

• Repeating affirmations without processing the anger, grief, or fear underneath.

👉 The problem? This creates a fragile foundation. When challenges come, everything crumbles because you’ve never learned how to regulate your emotions and move through them.

💡 Takeaway: Manifestation isn’t about avoiding negative emotions — it’s about processing them fully so you can realign with your desires in truth and authenticity.

The 5 Good Girl Trauma Habits Blocking Your Manifestations

These habits might look harmless on the surface, but energetically, they’re keeping you from becoming magnetic. Here’s what they are — and how to shift them.

Habit 1: Saying “I’m Fine” When You’re Not

When you automatically say “I’m fine” even though you’re hurting, overwhelmed, or angry, you create an energetic mismatch between your inner world and your outer words. Manifestation requires congruence — your vibration, words, and actions need to align.

• Why it blocks manifestation: The Universe can’t deliver clarity when you’re masking the truth. Pretending to be okay keeps you from receiving the support or healing you need.

• What to do instead: Practice radical honesty with yourself first. Try journaling prompts like, “What am I really feeling right now?” or say out loud, “I’m not okay today, and that’s okay.”

• Motivational shift: Remember — your vulnerability is not weakness. It’s strength. By acknowledging your real feelings, you open the door to authentic transformation.

Habit 2: Avoiding What You Really Want

Many women hold back from naming their desires because they fear being “selfish,” “too much,” or “unrealistic.” But manifestation only works when you’re brave enough to own what you truly want.

• Why it blocks manifestation: Shrinking your desires signals lack to the Universe. If you won’t admit what you want, you’ll never energetically align with it.

• What to do instead: Write a “no limits” list. Ask yourself, “If I believed I was worthy of it all, what would I claim?” Say it, script it, and feel into it unapologetically.

• Motivational shift: Claiming your desires is an act of self-worth. When you own what you want, you show the Universe you’re ready to receive.

Habit 3: Over-Explaining and Justifying Your Decisions

Do you find yourself explaining every choice — why you left a job, why you’re dating someone, why you bought something — as if you need everyone else’s permission?

• Why it blocks manifestation: Over-explaining leaks your power and tells the Universe you don’t fully trust yourself. Manifestation thrives on self-certainty.

• What to do instead: Try setting a boundary: “This feels right for me, and that’s enough.” No justification required.

• Motivational shift: Every time you stand in your decision with confidence, you magnetize more opportunities aligned with your authentic self.

Habit 4: Fake Chill Girl Energy (Avoiding Conflict)

Being “low maintenance” or the “chill girl” might feel easier in the moment, but in reality, you’re bypassing conflict and suppressing emotions that need to be expressed.

• Why it blocks manifestation: Suppressing tension dysregulates your nervous system. Instead of being calm, you’re in silent overdrive — and the Universe feels that frantic energy.

• What to do instead: Before a tough conversation, regulate your energy with breathwork, meditation, or a grounding ritual. Then, show up and speak your truth clearly and calmly.

• Motivational shift: Real magnetism doesn’t come from being easygoing at all costs — it comes from being regulated, authentic, and unafraid of honesty.

Habit 5: Apologizing When You Don’t Need To

Constantly saying “sorry” — for taking up space, asking questions, or simply existing — creates an energetic pattern of guilt.

• Why it blocks manifestation: Apologizing unnecessarily signals unworthiness. If you’re always sorry, you unconsciously affirm you don’t deserve to receive.

• What to do instead: Replace “sorry” with “thank you.” Instead of “sorry I’m late,” say “thank you for waiting.”

• Motivational shift: Every unnecessary apology you stop giving is a step back into your power. You are worthy of space, respect, and your desires.

The Missing Piece: Emotional Intelligence

Manifestation isn’t about staying “high vibe” — it’s about becoming emotionally resilient. That resilience comes from emotional intelligence, which is the ability to notice, process, and regulate emotions while also respecting others’.

The 4 Core Skills to Build Emotional Intelligence:

1. Self-Awareness: Notice your triggers, patterns, and feelings without judgment.

   • Practice: Ask yourself daily, “What am I feeling and why?”

2. Self-Regulation: Learn to calm your nervous system and process emotions healthily.

   • Practice: Breathwork, EFT tapping, somatic movement.

3. Empathy: Understand how others may feel, even in conflict.

   • Practice: Pause before reacting and consider their perspective.

4. Boundaries: Communicate needs clearly without guilt.

   • Practice: Use “I” statements like, “I feel ___ when ___ happens. I need ___.”

💡 Takeaway: The more emotionally intelligent you are, the more grounded and magnetic your manifestation energy becomes.

Manifestation doesn’t happen by bypassing your emotions — it happens when you align with them. If you’re craving deeper support in building emotional intelligence and stepping into your glow, join me inside Manifestation Queen Academy. It’s your invitation to stop playing small and start manifesting the life you deserve.

How to Manifest Without Bypassing

Instead of spiritual bypassing or “good girl” habits, try this grounded framework:

Step 1: Acknowledge Reality
Say what’s real. Example: “I’m anxious about money right now.”

Step 2: Process Emotions
Journal, cry, or move your body. Let the energy move through you.

Step 3: Choose Intentional Action
Act from your higher self, not your triggered self. Example: Instead of panic-spending, make one clear financial plan.

Step 4: Hold the Vision
Now return to your affirmations, scripting, and visualization — but from an emotionally integrated state.

💡 Takeaway: Your desires become more magnetic when you align with them from truth and grounded wholeness, not avoidance.

From Good Girl to Glow Girl

Breaking free from good girl habits isn’t just about boundaries — it’s about claiming your worth, your power, and your authenticity. When you stop apologizing, stop faking “fine,” and stop bypassing your emotions, you create space for true magnetism.

The Universe doesn’t need you to be perfect. It needs you to be authentic. And that authenticity, combined with emotional intelligence, is the most powerful manifestation tool you’ll ever have.

Beautiful, you don’t have to keep apologizing, bypassing, or waiting for permission. Your next level begins the moment you choose yourself. Inside Manifestation Queen, I’ll teach you how to regulate your energy, reclaim your self-worth, and manifest from your most authentic, feminine power.

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