44 things to do on Sunday that will make your life better

There is nothing quite like the feeling of staying in bed a little bit longer on a dark, wintery Sunday morning to just soothe your soul and make you feel like a million dollars. It might even be the most luxurious thing you get to do all week.

As I sit here in my bed, with a full cup of Nespresso Melozio on my nightstand, Diptyque candle going, laptop on a pillow writing this blog post…I can’t help but just feel like I am right out of a coastal grandmother holiday movie scene. The only thing I am missing is a fireplace right in my bedroom with a gorgeous ocean view. Wouldn’t that just be divine?

For me, Sunday always just feels like that magical day. The day that makes you feel like the main character of a movie. The day typically dedicated to treating yourself, doing some self care and soul care.

According to Astrology, Sunday is the day ruled by the Sun. Your Sun sign (where the Sun was positioned in the sky when you were born) is the representation of your identity, how you see yourself. So it is a day energetically set up for you to cultivate a strong sense of your identity. ( I break down each day astrologically in this post ) Sunday is always a perfect opportunity to shift yourself back to identifying yourself as the main character of your own movie in order for you to have a healthy self concept, something key to your confidence and ability to manifest the life you want.

You see it all over TikTok, all the habits you can do to become ‘that girl’. While I love all of those green smoothie, 10 mile run, vacuum your all white living room inspired ideas, they just feel a little impractical to me. So, today, I wanted to go a little bit deeper with you and share 20 ‘realistic’ things you can do today to romanticize your life so that you feel a little bit more like a main character of your own movie.

20 self care things you can do to romanticize your weekend:

1. Grab that book you have half read and finish it.

   If you are anything like me, you might have 2-3 books you are currently reading and it takes you a month to get back to it. Why not make a focus to actually spend some time to focus on it and finish it? The feeling of finally finishing that book feels so so good. I also love to pile all of my favorite design books in bed and just indulge in them.

   A few books I suggest:

   • Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself by Joe Dispenza - this book will help you reset your vibe for the week ahead

   • The Game of Life and How to Play it by Florence Scovel Shinn - I am obsessed with this book and this woman. It’s a short and easy afternoon read that will inspire you endlessly.

2. Less screen time and more presence with your environment.

   Look, I know you are on a screen right now as you read this very blog post. But why not decide today to focus less on screens and more on your current space. The people in it, the decor, the smell, the feel. Put down the phone, turn off the tv and just take in the moments.

3. Open a window and let in fresh air.

   There is just something so therapeutic about being outside. The fresh air can just intoxicate your spirit. I know the weather doesn’t always permit but opening a window and just letting fresh air in will change the energy of your home, even if its only for 5 min.

4. Journal on 3 things you are really really grateful for.

   Even if you aren’t big on journaling, you really should make the effort. I literally love the feeling of having old journal entries to look back on 3 or 6 months down the line. It always shows you how your life is unfolding and it makes you feel like you’re in a movie when you look at your life that way.

   Don’t feel like being grateful? Try the self-love journal that I created to have you getting to know your self on a deeper level.

   5 journal prompts to help you make the most of your Sunday:

   💛 What are 3 things I enjoyed this week? Focus on the good! What brings you joy and satisfaction in your life this Sunday? What opportunities have you been blessed with? Starting your Sunday mornings off with a positive mindset through gratitude can be a real mood booster!

   💛 What are you proud of yourself for accomplishing this week? It’s time for you to get in the celebration energy so you can feel good about yourself instead of beating yourself up.

   💛 What is one way I can put myself first this Sunday?

   💛 What can you do to your home today to help you feel prepared for the week ahead? Make a list of things you could do and only actually do 1 or 2.

   💛 What held you back from being your best self in the past week and how can you adjust for the week ahead?

5. Sage your space.

   I have blogged about my love of sage many times, but this one will never not be a part of my Sunday ritual. If you haven’t saged your home yet. Today is that day. Get to whole foods, they have an entire selection to choose from. Start at your front door, light that baby up and go clockwise around your home. Let the smoke fill every corner and speak out your intentions for the week as you do it. Say prayers for what you want.

6. create a new loaded water recipe

   And get all extra about it so you can drink your weight in water. Use a large cup or bottle you love. Add fresh lemon juice and chlorophyll. I also like to add electrolyte powder to my water for extra nutrients and vitamins, too.

7. Turn on your favorite playlist and turn it up.

   One of my favorite things to do at the moment is put on Bossa Nova Beach Jazz on Youtube and let it play in the background. There’s several you can choose from, I always love the ones with fireplaces going or a view of downtown at night. It just makes your day feel so romantic and fun.

8. Wear your favorite robe all day.

   If you aren’t leaving the house, why not put on your favorite robe and wear it all day. I swear by wearing my robes. They just make you feel so glamorous and chic. I even wear perfume for myself too. It just gives you that extra little touch.

9. Try Wim Hoff breath work exercise.

   The first time I tried breath work, I was changed forever. Your body literally gets invigorated when you do it. This is the first one I ever did and I loved it so much. You can do it in bed, before you even get up and I promise it will just make your day so much better, energetically.

10. Clean & organize your HOME OFFICE

    As many of you know, Feng Shui is my thing. I am always doing little habits, tips and tricks for elevating the chi in my space. Having said that, sometimes a complete organizing session or overhaul of a closet can be too overwhelming for a Sunday.

    So, one trick I learned was that doing even the smallest organizing can have the same effect as a big one. I love to set up for a powerful work week by doing a little feng shui to my home office.

11. Go shopping for organic, whole foods & try a new recipe.

    I’m not going to lie, I don’t always eat perfectly during the week. Sometimes, I even love to order out. Last week, I ordered the most amazing pad thai and it was heavenly. So, on Sunday, it can be fun to balance it out, grab some healthy, fresh foods and try a new recipe. And make sure to make it extra big so you can meal prep it to eat for the rest of the week.

12. Take a nap and rest when you need it.

    I mean, this is one I shouldn’t have to say but I know how we women can feel incredibly guilty for allowing ourselves to be lazy and rest. We’ve been taught to look at ease, calm and flow as a negative thing. (don’t miss my podcast episode 226: 6 lies we tell ourselves as women and how to heal them)

13. Face time a loved one.

    Every time I get off of a face time call with one of my besties who doesn’t live in my city, I honestly feel so nourished. It’s like good soul food.

14. Treat yourself to a houseplant.

    I love my plants so much. They are like my little babies. I always water them a little extra on Sundays and wipe down their leaves with wet towels. It is such a fun, self nurturing ritual and I love teaching my little boy to enjoy it too. Why not get a new one if you don’t have any yet? See my houseplant ritual.

15. Wash your sheets & make your bed.

    So once you are finally out of bed, throw your sheets in the washing machine. Have you ever tried the High Maintenance glamorous wash ? When I was in high school, I was obsessed with Tyler candles and the high maintenance scent. But even all these years later, I just still love this smell. And when you get into your bed Sunday evening after using this on your bedding, your life will never be the same. I also love switching out my sheets with a fresh new set. These green bamboo are my favorite and so luxurious.

16. Put a new inspiring/motivational screensaver on your phone.

    For some reason, whenever I upload a new screensaver on my phone, I feel like my life completely just got a restart. Try it and see how it feels for you.

17. Try a new veggie juice.

    Or some kind of smoothie perhaps? I love having carrot juice or celery juice on Sunday. It just makes me feel like I am getting a healthy start to my week. Suja is my favorite brand to use if I don’t try and make it at home myself.

18. Try some hip opening positions on a yoga mat at home.

    I’m obsessed with yoga and my favorite yoga class in on Sunday morning. My favorite teacher always plays Eryka Badu as we are walking in and it just instantly puts me in a relaxed, leveled up vibe. But you can also google some yoga hip opener positions to help you. Did you know that you will release trauma as you do hip opening stretches? Life changing for us women. Trust me. You can start with something like this.

19. Create an outdoor oasis in your backyard/balcony.

    If the weather permits, I love to go out to my little outdoor space and just be. I light a little sandalwood incense, sweep away any leaves and just sit and sip my coffee. Having a little outdoor oasis can be so fun for your spirit, head to HomeGoods and grab some things to spruce up your little space. Here are some really fun ideas for your backyard space.

20. Start a new course or project.

    I always encourage the women in my community to start my courses on Sunday. Mostly because you have the time to dive into the content. This will encourage you to whip out your journal and prepare yourself for your next up-level. It helps you to shift from worry, stress or anxiety into focusing on your self. Your own growth and personal development.

    💕 Want to go on a spiritual awakening? Take my course Soul Aligned.

    💕 Want to unleash your inner feminine side? Dive into my course The Feminine Frequency: secrets of the divine feminine.

    💕 Want to manifest big money this week? Start with Soul Aligned Wealth.

21. Make a slow morning drink

    Whether it’s a matcha, coffee, or herbal tea, let this be the first thing you do with intention. Sit down while you drink it instead of multitasking. This is your reminder that your day doesn’t need to start in urgency to be meaningful.

    23. Sleep in without an alarm

    When your body wakes up naturally, it resets your nervous system in a powerful way. Let yourself wake slowly, stretch, and ease into the day without rushing. Trust that rest is productive in its own way.

    24. Light a candle to begin the day

    Lighting a candle turns an ordinary morning into a ritual. It signals to your body and mind that today is different — slower, softer, more intentional. Even small gestures like this help romanticize everyday life.

    25. Take a short digital detox

    Put your phone down for an hour and notice how your body responds. Often, clarity and calm return much faster than we expect. Sunday is the perfect day to reconnect with yourself instead of the noise.

    26. Set gentle intentions for the week

    Instead of rigid goals, ask yourself how you want to feel this week. Choose one or two emotional intentions, like ease, confidence, or presence. Let these guide your choices rather than pressure you.

    27. Cook a comforting meal

    Choose something nourishing and familiar, not complicated. Cooking with love — even for yourself — is a form of care and grounding. Let this meal remind you that you deserve to be nourished.

    28. Create a Sunday playlist

    Music has the power to shift energy instantly. Choose songs that feel calm, nostalgic, or expansive. Let it play softly in the background as you move through your day.

    29. TAKE A LONG, UNSTRUCTURED WALK OUTSIDE

    Leave your phone behind or keep it tucked away. Walk without tracking time, steps, or distance. Let your thoughts wander and your body lead.

    30. Do gentle stretching or yoga

    Choose movements that feel soothing rather than challenging. Stretching releases emotional tension stored in the body. Sunday is about listening, not pushing.

    31. Plan a solo date

    Take yourself somewhere simple — a coffee shop, park, or cozy corner at home. Treat yourself with the same care you’d give someone you love. Romance starts with how you show up for yourself.

    32. Arrange fresh flowers

    Flowers instantly soften a space and elevate your mood. Let this be an act of beauty without purpose beyond enjoyment. Your home deserves beauty simply because you live there.

    33. Write a letter to your future self

    Reflect on where you are and what you’re learning right now. Write encouragement, reassurance, and hope into the future. This practice builds trust with yourself over time.

    34. Read something nourishing

    Choose an article that expands your heart or perspective. Avoid anything that feels overly stimulating or demanding. Let reading be restorative rather than productive.

    35. Watch a comforting movie

    Pick something familiar, cozy, or nostalgic. Let yourself enjoy it without scrolling or multitasking. This kind of rest restores emotional energy.

    36. Create a mini vision board

    Focus on the next month or season instead of long-term pressure. Choose images that reflect how you want life to feel. Keep it light and intuitive.

    37. Get dressed intentionally

    Even if you’re staying home, wear something that makes you feel like you. A spritz of perfume or fresh nails can shift your mood. Feeling good in your body matters.

    38. Declutter one small area

    Choose something manageable — a drawer, shelf, or bag. Clearing physical clutter often creates mental clarity. Small resets are powerful.

    39. Practice gratitude with a warm drink

    Sit quietly and reflect on what feels good right now. Gratitude anchors you in abundance instead of lack. Let it be slow and sincere.

    40. Do something creative

    Write, draw, paint, or journal without expectation. Creativity is about expression, not outcome. Let it feel playful and freeing.

    41. Give yourself an at-home spa moment

    Treat your body with gentleness — exfoliate, moisturize, rest. This is about care, not perfection. Your body holds so much for you.

    42. Spend intentional time with family

    Be fully present without distractions. Shared meals, conversations, or quiet moments matter. These connections ground us in what truly matters.

    43. Sit quietly and do nothing

    Let yourself just be. No fixing, planning, or improving. This kind of stillness restores your nervous system deeply.

    44. End Sunday with reassurance

    Before bed, remind yourself that you did enough and you are enough. Speak kindly to yourself about the week ahead. Let Sunday close with peace instead of pressure.

Hope this post inspires you to make your Sunday incredibly special today because of course, you deserve it.

love you,

Ashlina

10 Life Changing Cheat Codes I Learned This Year That I Wish Every Woman Knew {podcast ep.371}

10 Cheat Codes I Learned This Year That Changed My Life

This year didn’t change me in loud ways.

There were no overnight breakthroughs.
No dramatic reinventions.
No frantic hustle or chasing the next version of myself.

What changed me was integration.

The kind that happens quietly — when you stop trying to prove yourself and start trusting yourself. When you stop performing and start embodying. When you finally let your feminine wisdom lead… and allow your masculine energy to support it instead of override it.

In my 40s, I’ve learned that growth doesn’t come from doing more — it comes from living what you already know.

These aren’t hacks.
They aren’t shortcuts.
And they definitely aren’t hustle tactics.

These are life cheat codes that only reveal themselves once you’ve lived enough to recognize what actually matters.

They’re the result of slowing down instead of speeding up.
Listening to my body instead of pushing through it.
Choosing presence over pressure.
Consistency over chaos.
And decisiveness over doubt.

They’re the lessons that emerge when you stop trying to become someone else — and fully commit to being yourself.

As I looked back on this year — through photos, journals, conversations, content I created, and the patterns that kept repeating — I realized something:

I wasn’t just moving through another season of life.
I was becoming a more grounded, sovereign, embodied version of myself.

A woman who honors her capacity.
Who protects her peace.
Who leads with intuition but follows through with discipline.
Who understands that feminine energy doesn’t mean passivity — it means power with grace.

These are the 10 life cheat codes I learned this year that I wish every woman knew — not because they’ll make life perfect, but because they’ll make it more aligned, AND genuinely changed my life — my energy, my business, my nervous system, and the way I move through the world.

Listen to the podcast episode here:

1. Document Your Journey — Even When It Feels Ordinary

One of the most emotional moments I had this year was simply looking back.

Photos from my phone.
Little memories my iPhone surfaced.
A recap ChatGPT created for me.
Spotify Wrapped.

And suddenly I could see it — the growth I didn’t notice while living it.

When you’re in the middle of becoming, it can feel mundane. But documentation turns the ordinary into evidence.

I’ve learned that documenting your journey isn’t about proving anything to anyone else — it’s about witnessing yourself.

You don’t need a perfect plan.
You don’t need a big reveal.
You just need to let your life be seen — even by you.

Tip:
Document simply. Photos. Voice notes. Short journal entries. Content that says, “This is where I am right now.” One day, it will mean everything.

2. Protect Your Peace First — Everything Changes When You Do

This year, I stopped negotiating with my nervous system.

I realized how much energy I was leaking — to conversations that went nowhere, to situations I couldn’t control, to people who no longer aligned with who I was becoming.

Protecting your peace isn’t about being cold or closed off.
It’s about being intentional.

When you stop giving your energy to what drains you, life opens up. Your clarity sharpens. Your body softens. Your decisions get cleaner.

Peace is the foundation of everything meaningful I’ve built.

Tip:
If something leaves you dysregulated, exhausted, or anxious — pause before engaging. Peace is data. Listen to it.

3. Romanticize the Everyday — Your Energy Depends on It

I noticed how much my mood improved when I slowed down enough to notice my life.

The smell of coffee.
Morning light.
Lighting a candle for no reason.
Dressing like the woman I’m becoming, not the woman who’s “just staying home.”

Romanticizing your life isn’t about pretending everything is perfect.
It’s about bringing presence to what already exists.

When you treat your daily life with care, your nervous system responds with safety — and from safety, everything flows better.

Tip:
Choose one daily ritual and treat it like it matters. Your body is always listening.

4. Honor Your Capacity — You Don’t Have to Earn Rest

This year taught me the difference between growth and self-betrayal.

There were moments where pushing would’ve looked impressive — but resting was actually wiser.

Honoring your capacity means knowing when you’ve done enough.
It means choosing rest without guilt.
It means trusting your body’s intelligence.

Burnout doesn’t build legacy.
Sustainability does.

Tip:
Ask yourself daily: “What would support me right now?” Then let that be enough.

5. Do Less — But With More Intention

I stopped trying to do everything.

Instead, I started asking better questions:

• What is this teaching me?

• What’s the deeper message here?

• What actually matters?

When you slow down, the lesson reveals itself.

Depth creates impact.
Intention creates clarity.
And clarity saves time.

Tip:
Before starting something new, ask: “What’s the purpose of this?” If it’s unclear, pause.

6. Stay Consistent — Especially When It’s Boring

This year reminded me that consistency isn’t about motivation — it’s about identity.

Anyone can show up when something feels new, exciting, or results-driven. But the real transformation happens when you keep going after the novelty wears off.

Consistency is how trust is built — with your body, your mind, your work, and yourself.

At the gym, it’s not about doing an extreme program for 30 days.
It’s about moving your body in a way you can sustain for years.

With food, it’s not about dieting.
It’s about choosing nourishment as a lifestyle — something that supports your energy, hormones, and nervous system long-term.

With content and business, it’s not about posting obsessively for a week and disappearing for a month.
It’s about showing up regularly, calmly, and with intention — even when no one is applauding.

Boring doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong.
Boring often means you’ve created safety — and safety is where things compound.

Consistency turns effort into ease.
It’s how habits become identity.
And identity is what creates lasting change.

Tip:
Choose rhythms you can maintain on your worst days, not your best ones. Sustainable consistency beats intensity every time.

7. Learn to Let Go Quickly — This Is Emotional Freedom

One of the most powerful lessons I learned this year was how much lighter life becomes when you stop holding onto what’s already trying to leave.

Detachment isn’t about not caring.
It’s about caring without clinging.

It’s learning how to block out the noise — opinions, expectations, timelines, pressure — and listen to what actually feels true for you.

This year, I got comfortable cutting things off.
Conversations.
Habits.
Old versions of myself.
Even identities I had outgrown.

Not out of anger — but out of clarity.

Detachment taught me how to surrender without collapsing. How to release without spiraling. How to trust that what’s meant for me doesn’t require force, fixation, or fear.

When you stop gripping so tightly, your nervous system relaxes.
And when your nervous system feels safe, intuition gets louder.

Detachment creates space — and space is where the next chapter arrives.

Tip:
When something feels heavy, ask yourself: “Am I holding this out of fear, or out of alignment?” If it’s fear, it’s time to loosen your grip.

8. Start Before You Feel Ready — Confidence Follows Action

One of the most freeing realizations I had this year was that waiting to feel “ready” was never going to get me where I wanted to go.

Readiness is a mental construct.
Confidence is a byproduct of movement.

So many of us believe we need more clarity, more certainty, or more proof before we take the next step — but clarity doesn’t arrive through thinking. It arrives through doing.

This year, I stopped waiting to feel prepared and started acting from alignment instead.

I showed up before I felt confident.
I shared ideas before they felt fully formed.
I made moves before I had all the answers.

And every time I did, something clicked.

Action creates feedback.
Feedback creates refinement.
Refinement creates confidence.

You don’t become brave and then act.
You act — and bravery meets you there.

When you start before you feel ready, you teach your nervous system that expansion is safe. You stop outsourcing your power to fear and start building self-trust through experience.

Momentum doesn’t require perfection.
It requires permission — and you can give that to yourself.

Tip:
If you’re waiting for clarity, take the smallest aligned action instead. Movement will show you what thinking never will.

9. Become a Decisive Woman — This Is Where Your Power Locks In

This year showed me just how much energy is wasted in indecision.

Overthinking.
Second-guessing.
Keeping backup plans “just in case.”
Holding ten possibilities open at once.

Indecision feels responsible — but it’s actually exhausting.

One of the most powerful shifts I made was learning how to decide.

The root of the word decisive literally means to cut off.
When you decide something, you cut off every other option.

You stop entertaining alternatives.
You stop wavering.
You stop leaking energy into doubt.

This is what it means to step into queen energy.

A queen doesn’t test a hundred paths.
She chooses one — and builds it.

For example:
When I decided that my blog is becoming one of the top blogs in the country, with 100,000+ monthly page views, that decision collapsed time. There was no “if.” There was no “maybe.” There was no backup identity.

It actually happened.

There is only alignment, action, and follow-through.

And this is how manifestation actually works.

Decisions create direction.
Direction creates momentum.
Momentum creates reality.

Decisive women conserve energy because they’re no longer scattered. They’re not chasing trends, questioning every move, or reacting emotionally to temporary setbacks.

They show up.
They take action.
They adjust — without abandoning the vision.

They don’t sit in doubt.
They don’t wait for reassurance.
They become the version of themselves who already decided.

Decision Hack:
Ask yourself, “If I fully trusted myself, what would I choose right now?”
Then choose it — and stop revisiting the decision.

Your power sharpens the moment you decide.

10. Build a Life You Love — Then Take It Online With You

This may be the most important thing I learned this year.

You don’t build a meaningful online business by chasing what everyone else likes, follows, or approves of. You build it by getting radically honest about what you love.

What you’re drawn to.
What you can talk about for hours.
What lights you up.
What you’ve lived, survived, softened into, and learned from.

Your life is your brand — not in a performative way, but in a truthful way.

The way you see the world.
The experiences that shaped you.
The wisdom you’ve earned.
The things that make you feel most alive.

That’s the work.

I created my dream lifestyle because I stopped trying to build what was trendy and started building what was true for me.

I curated a life I actually enjoy living.
I paid attention to what I loved.
I honored my natural rhythms, interests, and seasons.

And then — I shared it.

Not perfectly.
Not loudly.
But consistently, honestly, and with heart.

When you share you — your perspective, your lessons, your aliveness — it creates resonance. And resonance creates impact.

Your uniqueness isn’t random.
It’s relational.

It moves people.
It gives permission.
It changes lives in quiet, meaningful ways.

And here’s the part that still amazes me:

We live in a time where you can be divinely compensated for this.

You can get paid to live, reflect, curate, teach, and share.
You can build income from the things that genuinely matter to you.
You can create a life that feels rich — emotionally, spiritually, creatively, and financially.

Your best year doesn’t come from becoming someone else.
It comes from becoming more of yourself — and letting the world meet you there.

This is the philosophy behind everything I teach inside Shine Online — how to turn your life, your voice, and your vision into something meaningful and sustainable online.

Not by forcing.
Not by copying.
But by building what you love — and letting it support you in return.

Your Best Year Yet Is Up To You

Life doesn’t change all at once.

It changes quietly — choice by choice, moment by moment.

And when your lifestyle, values, and work align, life stops feeling like resistance… and starts feeling like flow.

This philosophy is the foundation of everything I teach inside Shine Online: Digital Wealth Mastermind— how to turn your life, your message, and your creativity into something meaningful and sustainable online.

Not overnight.
But intentionally.
And beautifully.

You may also like:

💛 The 12 Best books on Manifestation that transformed my life

💛 The 8 phases of Manifestation you need to know.

💛 11 simple ways to regulate your nervous system

💛 How to boost your oxytocin to manifest more

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