7 mindset shifts to help with fear and anxiety

It’s no secret that there is a global energetic movement of uncertainty and fear hanging over us all. With all of the uncertainty, it’s no wonder the panic is getting to everybody. In an effort to provide a resource of support, I’ve been in meditation, prayer and furthering my studies of Feng Shui to learn ways to resist the urge to fall down the fear rabbit hole.

Over and over in my meditations, there is one truth that continues to rise up in me, nobody but you gets to choose what you experience in life. You decide whether you are going to buy into fear (thoughts of lack and limiting beliefs) or choose to stay in faith (that things will go your way despite what they say). Your thoughts control your outcome in life. You don’t have to allow everybody's negative views to get the best of you. Truth: you are always manifesting your life experience.

It’s a constant battle, some say the battlefield of the mind is never ending. However, I do believe that you can choose to lessen the impact in has on you. Something it has taken me a long time to learn is that it doesn’t have to be an overnight change, you can make adjustments in small incremental steps to help slow down the impact that fear has on you. One way I learned to do this is to make an intentional list of mindset shifts that I can recite in my head when I feel fear trying to get the best of me.

Today, I want to share 7 of my current favorite mindset shifts that I am using to combat the fear and anxiety of this corona virus pandemic. I dive deeper into each one of these in Episode 59 of the Bliss Vibes Only podcast.

1. There is a higher purpose in all of this.

2. I am getting to focus on what really matters most.

3. This is an opportunity to adjust my goals & habits.

4. Everything is happening for me.

5. I get to choose how my life plays out.

6. What do I need to start believing about myself?

7. What do I need to stop believing about myself?

I created this image so you could save it to your phone for when you find yourself falling down the spiral of fearful or negative thinking. It’s important that we arm ourselves with the tools to combat outside negative forces. You can’t imagine how much of it there is out there. Here’s what you can be doing to be proactive about your mental wellness.

🖤 Exercise and Move your body. You’d be surprised just how beneficial moving the body is for your mind. Endorphins get flowing and those are ‘feel good’ signals to your brain. When you feel good, you are less likely to fall down a depressive or negative thinking spiral.

🖤 Get fresh air. Let yourself feel the sunlight, Vitamin D sends healing energy to your mind, its nourishing. Your home with appreciate the fresh air coming in and busing out all of that stagnant energy just sitting in your home. It will help energize the way you interact with your environment.

🖤 Turn off the news and stop the scrolling. You’ll want to begin to curate what you DO let into your mind, you have to feed it with positive, authentic and inspiring content. If you’re looking for something to fill your mind with, check out my podcast, Blissfully Ambitious.

🖤 Meditations. Use guided meditations to help cleanse your mind of negative thinking spirals. If meditating feels too hard, you can also use relaxing music to help calm and soothe the mind. There are plenty of playlists on Spotify or YouTube that can help but your brain back in an open, meditative state.

🖤 Crystals. I love using crystals when I am trying to calm my mind. I especially love wearing my crystals when I need to stay focused on my intentions. Selenite is my favorite for cleansing my mind from all negative thought patterns. You just simply have to hold it in your hands and ask that all of your mental attachments are released. You can also use Amethyst, it helps to deal with negative thinking addictions so that they are gone for good.

I hope this post was helpful for you. Save it and use it as a resource if you find yourself feeling fearful thoughts. For more, come hang out in the Blissful Living Lounge.

MY GOALS FOR 2020

If the fact that this is only my second blog post of 2020 is any indicator of the year so far…I have a feeling it is going to be a BUSY year. When the year began, I created a vision board with all of the specific goals I want to accomplish. I use a particular vision board method to ensure I’m in the right mode for manifesting it all. Here are some of the things I am working towards this year:

BE MORE VISIBLE. I think this is something that everybody struggles with when you’re an entrepreneur. Especially today, in a very social media driven market, you have got to be online. When was the last time you googled yourself? I did today and I came across this picture of me (above) from a couple of years ago and thought to myself, “oh, wow. I haven’t done a proper photoshoot in a while.”. It’s so important to always be keeping up your online branding. So, this year, I want to make more of an effort to have professional photos taken for my business and always have all my online media up to date.

With this goal comes making sure I keep up the confidence to be more visible. Which means I need to make sure I am feeling my best as much as possible. I’ve been watching what I put into my body, making sure that my skin, hair and nails are good to go. (I love a good neutral brown powder dip polish on my nails). I also signed up for Class Pass and I’m absolutely obsessed!!!! You can join in on all the classes in your neighborhood. I’m currently into Pilates reformer classes. Sign up using this link and you can get your first couple of classes free, this is not an ad but its how I signed up and I’m hooked and if you love it, I’ll get some free classes, too.

DAILY DECLUTTERING. Look, I am no hoarder but for some reason I pile up clutter everyday. With a busy household and passion for beautiful things, I am always finding stacks or piles of things. So, its a must for me to make decluttering a daily practice. Just yesterday I realized that I had 5 different types of mascara in my makeup bag……5! I also have like 8 lipglosses that I carry with me daily. These little bits of clutter may not seem like they effect you but silently, they do. If I had just one or two glosses, I would have a calmer state of mind. This is based on scientific evidence, so believe me when I tell you to start doing little bits of decluttering every single day. It helps you, your kids, your family, your entire household. It’s important that you understand how the things in your home, affect your life. I teach a specific technique that helps you de-clutter your life and home, to put you in a high vibration in my High Vibe Home workshop.

READ TWO BOOKS A MONTH. This one is very specific for me because this year I feel like I am getting back to work. I decided to get my real estate license to add on to my design practice. Becoming a mom gave me the small break I needed to be refreshed and ready to help create beautiful homes again. I’ve always found that in any industry, its important to read motivational and inspiring books to keep your mindset at its best. I always want to be ahead of the game. A few of my favorites are:

EDUCATE ON FENG SHUI. It’s no secret I am super passionate about living a Feng Shui lifestyle. Just listen to episode 51 on my podcast and you will sure know it. I think it’s important that we all understand how our energy and the energy of our environment effects us. There is so much to learn and understand, I truly feel it is my calling to help you understand it better. So get ready to amplify your life with some Feng Shui living tips and tricks.

TRAVEL MORE. I’ve always been a big traveler but the past few years I’ve been in new mom mode and really have been home…..a lot. Being near the water is soothing to my soul, I always feel a spiritual connection when I’m near the water. We spend a lot of time at the lake but this year I’m ready to get back to taking more trips to get away and visit friends. I absolutely love eating breakfast at a beautiful hotel, sitting poolside sipping something delicious while reading a book or spending time in my journal. I want to make a conscious effort to plan little getaways to replenish my soul.

VOLUNTEERING. This year it’s important to me that I spend more time giving back to charities and organizations that speak to me. A few years ago I decorated the hospital room of an adorable teen cancer patient with an organization called Dec My Room. I loved that experience so much, I feel like this year it’s time for me to get active again. Giving is always such a good feeling and it helps to improve your own happiness. They say, whenever you’re feeling stressed, the cure is giving back.

QUALITY OVER QUANTITY. They say less is more but I am not truly a fan of that, hello 5 mascaras..?! What I do realize however, is that its important to me, to live by a quality over quantity perspective. Maybe one really good fitting and quality pair of denim jeans over a few not so great fitting ones. One really good pair of shoes over 10 of poor quality. For me, it used to be the other way around because I really enjoyed style and variety. Now, I am at a point where I have shifted this point of view for almost everything in my life. This goes for clothes, friendships, activities, events, luggage, etc.

This had a big effect on me in my kitchen. We had a ton of pots and pans in our house because I needed them. I am always making something and its hard to clean them so often. For Christmas I got a set of just a few very great quality Calphalon pans and I am obsessed. They’re fabulous, so well made, they cook evenly and are so easy to clean. I will never cook with another pan again. It’s little things like this that make my life easier and more enjoyable. Quality over quantity.

What are your resolutions? I would love to know. Share them in the comments below or over in the Blissful Living Lounge.