21 Signs You’re Out of Alignment with Your Higher Self (And How to Fix It in Just 21 Days) Podcast Ep. 321

Do You Feel Disconnected From Your True Self? Here’s How to Get Back in Flow

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Have you ever felt like life is happening to you rather than for you? Like something is just off, but you can’t quite put your finger on what it is? You’re not alone. Many women experience moments of deep misalignment, where their energy, purpose, and intuition feel blocked.

The good news? Realignment doesn’t have to take years. When you know the signs of disconnection and take intentional steps to shift your energy, you can step back into flow pretty quickly. In fact, you can begin to feel reconnected in just 21 days (the specific number of days it takes to reprogram your neural pathways). More on this later.

First, let’s talk about what alignment actually is.

What Does It Mean to Be in Alignment?

Alignment is the state of being deeply connected to your higher self—the most authentic, intuitive, and empowered version of you.

It means living in harmony with your true desires, values, and purpose rather than feeling stuck in patterns of doubt, fear, or external expectations. When you are in alignment, your thoughts, emotions, and actions flow effortlessly, and life feels more meaningful and guided. You no longer feel like you're forcing things to happen; instead, opportunities, relationships, and manifestations naturally unfold in your favor.

Being in alignment isn’t about being perfect—it’s about tuning in to your inner guidance and moving through life with trust and ease. You feel a sense of inner peace, clarity, and confidence, even when faced with challenges. It’s the difference between struggling against the current versus flowing effortlessly toward the life you’re meant to live. And the best part? When you are aligned, you become a magnet for the things you truly desire—whether it's love, success, abundance, or happiness.

Here are 21 signs you may be out of alignment—and what you can do to fix it.

21 Signs You’re Out of Alignment with Your Higher Self

1. You feel stuck in repetitive patterns – No matter how much you try to change, the same struggles keep showing up.

2. You constantly second-guess your decisions – Your intuition feels distant, and you struggle to trust yourself.

3. You wake up feeling drained, uninspired, or lost – Even when you get enough sleep, something still feels off.

4. You attract relationships that don’t truly fulfill you – Friends, partners, or coworkers feel misaligned with who you really are.

5. You overthink everything – Anxiety and analysis paralysis keep you from moving forward.

6. You feel like something is missing – Even when everything looks fine on the outside, something inside you feels unfulfilled.

7. Your manifestations aren’t coming through – You’re doing all the “right” things, but abundance and opportunities aren’t flowing.

8. You’re always exhausted, no matter what you do – Energetic depletion is a clear sign of misalignment.

9. You find yourself people-pleasing or playing small – You hold back, afraid of stepping into your full power.

10. You ignore red flags – Whether in relationships, work, or habits, you tolerate things that deep down you know aren’t serving you.

11. You’re more reactive than intentional – Instead of flowing through life, you feel like you’re constantly putting out fires.

12. You procrastinate on things that matter to you – Your soul’s desires get pushed aside for distractions or busywork.

13. You feel disconnected from your body – You may ignore your body’s signals, struggle with self-care, or feel out of touch with your sensuality.

14. You have a hard time feeling grateful – Even good moments don’t feel as fulfilling as they should.

15. You feel resistance around taking action – Instead of feeling inspired, things feel heavy or forced.

16. You experience frequent self-doubt – Your inner voice is full of “What if I’m not good enough?” thoughts.

17. You seek external validation constantly – Instead of trusting your own wisdom, you look to others for answers.

18. Your creativity feels blocked – You struggle to access inspiration, flow, or passion.

19. You feel like you’re “too much” or “not enough” – Perfectionism or fear of judgment keeps you stuck.

20. You often feel disconnected from your emotions – You numb out with distractions instead of processing your feelings.

21. You’ve forgotten what it feels like to trust yourself completely – Your inner wisdom is clouded, making it hard to move with confidence.

How Getting in Alignment Transforms Your Life

When you are in alignment with your higher self, everything in life starts to flow effortlessly. You experience greater clarity, stronger intuition, and an undeniable sense of purpose. Instead of feeling lost or uncertain, you begin to attract the right people, opportunities, and experiences that align with your true desires.

Alignment allows you to make better decisions with confidence, reduces stress, and deepens your connection to yourself and the universe. When you’re aligned, life feels lighter, more joyful, and filled with synchronicities that guide you in the right direction.

How Alignment Supercharges Your Manifestations

Manifestation is all about energetic frequency. When you are out of alignment, you send mixed signals to the universe, making it difficult to attract what you truly desire. But when you align with your higher self, you naturally elevate your energy, making it easier to manifest effortlessly.

In alignment, your desires feel within reach because you’re operating from a place of abundance rather than lack. You trust the process, take inspired action, and allow manifestations to flow without resistance. Whether you’re calling in love, success, or financial abundance, alignment is the key that unlocks it all.

The Incredible Benefits of Being in Alignment with Your Higher Self

✨ Clarity & Inner Peace – You no longer second-guess yourself or feel lost. Decisions become easier, and you move through life with confidence.

💡 Stronger Intuition – Your inner guidance becomes crystal clear, helping you navigate challenges with ease and trust.

🚀 Faster & Effortless Manifestation – When you're aligned, you naturally attract what you desire because your energy is in sync with your dreams.

💖 Deeper Self-Love & Acceptance – You fully embrace who you are, letting go of self-doubt and stepping into your worth.

🔋 Increased Energy & Vitality – Alignment removes energetic blocks, allowing you to feel more vibrant, inspired, and motivated.

🌿 Reduced Stress & Anxiety – When you're in flow with your soul’s purpose, life feels lighter, and worries no longer control you.

🌀 Synchronicities & Divine Guidance – You start experiencing "magical" coincidences that guide you in the right direction.

💰 Abundance & Prosperity – Financial and career opportunities flow more easily because you’re open to receiving.

💫 Healthy, Fulfilling Relationships – You attract people who match your energy and align with your soul’s growth.

🌟 Feeling Deeply Connected to Your Purpose – Life no longer feels like you’re just going through the motions. Every action feels intentional and meaningful.

5 tips for getting into realignment:

01. Quiet all of the outside noise. Start spending more time alone. Stop scrolling social media or looking outside of you for validation and answers.

02. Start journaling daily. One of the best ways to hear from your higher self is through writing out your stream of consciousness thoughts on paper. I am a big fan of morning pages or this journaling ritual.

03. Be in your body. Start a yoga practice, do deep breathwork. Put your hand on your heart and just feel your heartbeat. You want to get it the habit of connection with your body. It’s always speaking to you.

04. Get ready to take quick action. When you get an intuitive nudge, I don’t want you overthinking it or second guessing yourself. You need to be ready to move quickly and confidently.

05. Decide that you are meant for this. And know that everything you desire is meant for you to experience. Everything you want, wants you too.

How to Realign in Just 21 Days

If any of these signs resonated with you, your soul is nudging you toward change. The truth is, alignment isn’t something you have to chase—it’s something you can return to.

That’s why I created Soul Aligned: A 21-Day Workshop—to guide you back to the most empowered, intuitive, and magnetic version of yourself.

Inside this transformative program, you’ll experience:

✅ Daily Guided Activations – Simple yet powerful practices to shift your energy instantly.
✅ High-Frequency Mindset Reprogramming – Release self-doubt and embody confidence.
✅ Soul Expansion Rituals – Strengthen your intuition and connect with your purpose.
✅ Exclusive Community & Support – Surround yourself with high-vibe women on the same journey.

You don’t have to stay stuck. You don’t have to settle for feeling misaligned.

Your highest self is already within you—you just need to clear the blocks and reconnect.

🔮 Are you ready to realign in just 21 days? Click here to join Soul Aligned today and start your transformation.

(P.S. The life-changing shifts you’re craving? They’re closer than you think.)

7 Wealthy Woman Wellness Secrets You Should Adopt

If you have seen my recent Wealthy Woman Walks video, then you know, I’ve sort of been on a journey of the wealth & wellness lifestyle and how the two relate.

For years, I’ve been studying the hobbies, habits and activities of women that are wealthy and one of the things I’ve noticed is that for women that are wealthy, wellness is a top priority. Abundance in all areas of life is the vibe.

Many celebrities like Jennifer Lopez, Jennifer Anniston or Jessica Chastain have those French Riveria like bodies that just scream wealth & wellness. So, I’ve always been one to study the wellness habits of these women.

Aside from having plenty of money to hire a chef, trainer, etc. They still have to have daily habits of discipline that help them to maintain the work they put in.

Also, I think it is a myth that you have to be wealthy (or spend a lot of money) to have good wellness habits. It’s really about being consistent, dedicated and committed to a lifestyle of wealth and wellness.

I am going to share with you what I have gleaned from studying these women and what I have incorporated into my life on my own personal wealth & wellness journey.

💕 WEALTHY WOMAN WELLNESS SECRET #1: The magical morning elixir.

The most magical little fruit you could ever digest, is the lemon. Lemons are packed with vitamins and nutrients and do so much for your body and digestion. Celebrities like Meghan Markle, Jennifer Anniston & Gisele Bundchen drink hot water with lemon in the morning.

In the Ayurvedic tradition, drinking hot lemon water first thing in the morning helps kick-start digestion and metabolism. Adding lemon helps aid the process.

When I started drinking water with lemon in it first thing in the morning, my entire morning changed. It actually helped me to slow down more in the mornings. Waiting to boil water requires you to practice patience which is so good for your inner health and then slicing the lemon requires focus and intention. The practice does so much for your body, mind and spirit.

💕 WEALTHY WOMAN WELLNESS SECRET #2: Good for you greens.

Celebrities swear by green juices. Kimberly Snyder ( one of my favorite nutrition authors ) has the glowing goddess smoothie recipe which will rock your world. I love her books. Her smoothie will make your body feel so healthy and glowing. Kylie Jenner, Reese Witherspoon &. Leanne Rimes all love her morning green smoothies.

I personally did a 7-day detox with the GGS and loved it.

After loving my morning smoothie, I switched up to a more protein filled green smoothie for my daily breakfast ritual and since then, I have been consistent with my green smoothie breakfasts. I can tell you that this has changed my mornings, I feel nourished, full and still light enough & not too full where I have enough energy to get through a work morning and satiated enough through the late afternoon.

Another green juice I have come to love is CELERY JUICE. Celebrities swear by this beauty secret, made popular by Medical Medium. The benefits of celery juice are endless. It helps chronic acid reflux, fights autoimmune disease, helps restore adrenals, neutralizes and flushes toxins out of the liver, supports a detoxification and is a powerful help to fight bloating. I love to drink celery juice whenever i’m having amid-day snack, I feel like it breaks up my meals.

💕 WEALTHY WOMAN WELLNESS SECRET #3 Digestive Enzymes.

I have always been a big fan of vitamins & supplements.. Every morning, I whip out my vitamin planner and take my supplements for the day. Drew Barrymore and several other health experts have come out raving about digestive enzymes. They support your body in breaking down your food without exhausting your gut.

Years ago, I would notice that after a big meal, my skin would always have some sort of allergic reaction to things. Sometimes, my fingers would just swell. That’s when I began reading about gut health and as someone who has learned how important gut health is, digestive enzymes became a go-to for me with every meal. I noticed that when I would take digestive enzymes, I stopped having skin irritations.

What I’ve learned is that when your body is having a hard time breaking down food, you can experience bloating, puffiness, fatigue and even skin irritations. So, for me proper digestion & food breakdown will transform your skin and body.

I also add Chlorophyll drops to my water which helps in the same way. It’s dark green and makes your water look funny but literally has zero taste to it. It speeds up health recovery, boosts immunity, helps clear skin, helps with digestion and improves your iron levels which is a must for women. I highly recommend trying this little wellness ritual.

💕 WEALTHY WOMAN WELLNESS SECRET #4 Wealthy Woman Walks.

For at least a year, I’ve been doing 3 mile walks in the morning. It started with 25 minute walks and then quickly became 45 minute walks because over time, I found myself addicted.

Now, here is the benefit of walks versus hard core cardio workouts. When your body is in walking mode, your heart rate stays at about a 60-70% of your maximum heart range (zone 1 & 2) which keeps you at prime fat burning mode for an extended period of time.

When you get into high intensity cardio, your body goes into calorie burning mode, not fat burning mode. But walking, keeps your body at a steady fat burning rate. This is ideal for weight loss and keeping it off.

Walks also help you stay grounded. It helps you process emotions through your body and move energy that was previously stagnant. I recorded a podcast episode about a few rituals like walking that I use to help me stay grounded and balanced.

Also, on these walks are a few key essentials. It is an optimal time to be listening to audiobooks or podcasts to expand your mind and learn new things. You must remember to wear your sunscreen and even wear an ever bigger hat. Every wealthy woman is covering herself properly from sun damage. Proper shoes and waist bag are also included. I am obsessed with these walking shoes, they are like walking on clouds.

💕 WEALTHY WOMAN WELLNESS SECRET #5: SETTING INTENTIONS & JOURNALING

Did you know that J-lo credits her success to setting the right intentions? Jennifer Anniston uses journaling as a form of therapy and so does Jessica Simpson, Lady Gaga and Emma Watson according to this article.

My favorite way to start my day, Morning Pages. In the book, The Artist’s Way, Julia Cameron speaks about “Morning Pages”, a journaling method that helps to inspire your creativity for your life and career.

“Morning Pages are three pages of longhand, stream of consciousness writing,
done first thing in the morning. *There is no wrong way to do Morning Pages*–
they are not high art. They are not even “writing.” They are about
anything and everything that crosses your mind– and they are for your eyes
only. Morning Pages provoke, clarify, comfort, cajole, prioritize and
synchronize the day at hand. Do not over-think Morning Pages: just put
three pages of anything on the page...and then do three more pages tomorrow.”

— Julia Cameron

I have always been in love with journaling as a way to clear my mind so I can prepare myself to be present during my workday. The benefits of journaling are endless. I also use journaling as a tool for manifestation, which by the way is incredibly powerful, especially as you write out the things you want to attract into your life, I explain it in detail here.

💕 SECRET #6: MINDFULNESS & MEDITATION

Mindfulness is a Buddhist concept that means being fully present. I once read that Goldie Hawn, 70, has shared that one of the secrets to glowing at her age is eating mindfully. She credits that eating mindfully helps her determine whether she is actually hungry or just eating for emotional reasons.

Oprah Winfrey previously admitted that learning how to meditate was one of the "most life-enhancing things I ever did,” she told comedian Amy Schumer in a 2018 interview for Oprah’s Super Soul Conversations. Oprah practices TM, Transcendental Meditation.

Beyonce Knowles credits using “tools like acupuncture, meditation, visualization, and breathing exercises” to in her lifestyle to keep herself in top mental and physical shape.

I personally began using mindfulness and meditation at the start of my own wellness lifestyle makeover and haven’t gone back since. Chakra meditations are my weekly must do ritual, I share all of my mindfulness tool inside of my monthly membership program, the House of Bliss.

💕 SECRET #7: GRATITUDE, AFFIRMATIONS & SELF-CONCEPT WORK

One of the many things I teach the women inside my membership is the foundational work on gratitude & affirmations. We flourish when we have a solid foundation in ourselves. When we are confident in who we are and what we are doing.

Billionaire and entrepreneur John Paul DeJoria, you may know him as the co-founder of Paul Mitchell hair products and Patron tequila), spends his mornings expressing gratitude. “The very second I wake up, I stay in bed for about five minutes and just be. I do, at times, reflect on what I have in life and for what I am grateful. For the most part, I can’t tell you how important it is to take those first five minutes and be thankful for life.

Practicing gratitude for your life and for yourself is a habit of highly abundant women.

In addition to gratitude, affirmations have supported the most successful people on their journeys to becoming the best in their industries. Jennifer Lopez, Oprah and Jim Carrey all have a consistent affirmation practice to help them succeed. Affirmations are powerful, positive statements that aim to direct your conscious and subconscious mind, challenging previously held unhealthy and negative thinking patterns.

Here are a few of the affirmations I have used and fallen in love with….

+ I accept myself for who I am & I accept my life as it is. 

+ I loving release anything that is no longer serving me. 

+ I only focus on the things I can control. 

+ I feel my best in a clutter free space. 

+ I prioritize my well-being and emotional health.

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I’ve been studying the lifestyle secrets of wealthy women for years, (watching Real Housewives counts too, right?). And through all of my studies on personal development, spirituality, wellness, self-love and self-care…I put it all together, break it down to cliff’s notes so you don’t have to do all the digging. I hope you enjoyed this post and get to try out some of these secrets for yourself. Each one is a practice I have personally adopted into my lifestyle regime and I can attest to the results.

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